Helping a lost soul

[Muddays]

My sister's soulmate and husband of 8 years died earlier this year from a terminal brain tumour. He was only 38 and they had their whole life ahead of them. (Neither of them wanted children). This is her first Christmas without him and she's spending it with us. I was just hoping for any advice about how to make this day as stress free and happy as it could be possible for her. She is utterly heartbroken.

That is heartbreaking.
I guess you could ask her what would help her, if she wants you to carry on as usual, let her know there's no expectations on her, she can suck out if she wants to?

@christmasfairy22 thank you so much you lovely lady. Perfect and simple advice that I needed to hear. Happy Christmas x

Don't be afraid to mention his name. So many people stop talking about our loved ones once they have died and it hurts. You sound like a lovely sister, I wish you all a peaceful Christmas

@bloodywhitecat wishing you a happy Christmas too, and thank you for your kindness x

I was also widowed young, Christmas is going to be extremely difficult for her this year, l would advise no expectations, to just gently get through the day. She may not feel up to eating and might want/ need time to herself. I always found a nice walk in nature uplifting.
There are online widow groups/ blogs that she my find helpful, WAY, and Widow Chic, also youtube videos and some good books on Amazon, written by young widows , might help her feel less alone.
I am glad she has you, you sound lovely.

Definitely talk about him. Share memories. She's going to cry and that's OK. I hope it goes well xxx

She's probably dreading today. I would just make sure I'm gentle on her and have no expectations of her or how she will go. Just take it as it comes. Poor her.

You all are so beautiful I really hope you have the best love you give back to you x