My mum has died

[FunnysInLaJardin]

Dont know what I am trying to achieve by writing this, but just needed to get it out.

She was 94 and very frail, but her death just a month ago was very sudden. We were told she was receiving end of life care and then a day and a half later she had died.

Just that really. I feel a bit shell shocked and quite sad, even though she wasn't the mum I knew when she died. I had lost her years before that due to mental health issues etc.

Anyway, just saying really. Every now and again I realise my mum has died.

And she was my mum

So sorry for your loss x

I can feel the emotion in your last two sentences. Hugs to you and RIP to your Mum 💐

I am so sorry - it is awful to lose your mum at whatever age.

Awww I'm so sorry, it's the anniversary of my dads funeral today, a year ago today.

I can't wrap my head around it and I sent him a WhatsApp reply to a mobile phone he no longer has saying we miss you.

It does get easier, I've heard that so much but it's also ok to be sad.

Regardless of age, or sickness it's still loosing a part of you.

Sorry for your loss. So sudden - must have been a shock. We're never quite prepared. Look after yourself.

I'm so sorry OP. Sending you hugs xx

I am so sorry for your loss, it doesnt matter how old she was, or how expected the death was, its still a horrible shock and she was still your mum. This is just going to be a crappy time, and sadly it just has to be. There is nothing I can say to make it better, but I would hug you if I could. xx

Sending hugs OP

I'm so sorry 💐

So sad, my dad died aged 81 a few years ago but his age was irrelevant he was just my dad ! It does get easier but there’s always times especially like Christmas where the pain returns . I will be visiting him Christmas Day he’s buried in a beautiful meadow (natural burial )

Oh Funny's. I'm so sorry. Yes, no matter what, she was your Mum 💕🤗

look after yourself, a month is no time xx

I'm so sorry to hear of your loss

So sorry for your loss. It happened to me too, a few months ago.

I still can't say the words "my Mum died" without breaking down. Do you have some support in real life? People that you may not expect can be very empathetic (and vice versa to be honest)

I'll be thinking of you in the weeks ahead

So sorry OP 💐

Sending you love and support x

My lovely Mum died at the age of 92 last Tuesday. Her funeral is on Monday. I’m staying in her flat at the moment and it’s strangely comforting - I’m not religious but I feel her ‘presence’ around me. I know her health was failing this year but I thought I’d have her forever. Much love to all the other motherless bairns out there.

After a lifetime of seriously not getting along with my Mum, she got Alzheimer's and turned into the most lovely person. Caring, thoughtful and loving.

She died last year, I'm grateful for those 6 years and miss her immensely.

I'm really sorry for your loss. I lost my gran at the end of October and was really devastated. I can't imagine losing my mum, I'm really sorry for what you are going through.

I’m so sorry @FunnysInLaJardin & @HannahinHampshire
The loss of a mother is so sad , please be kind and take care of yourselves and ask for support in the days , weeks and months ahead . Xx

Thinking if you both and wishing you strength in the emotional times to come , I hope you find some comfort in happy memories.

I’m so sorry OP. Sending you lots of love and support xx

Sorry for you loss.

It's hard to lose a parent regardless of age. I'm in my 60s and became an 'orphan' last year. I realise it's a ridiculous way to feel but sometimes it makes me very sad for the days gone by.

I will be thinking of you.

Thank you so much mumsnet friends. Your support means a lot ❤️

And lots of love to those who are sad and suffering 💐

I am fine most of the time and every now and again it hits me

My mum and dad were both buried together in a natural burial ground. We will plant an apple tree above her we think as she loved apples!