Everyone struggling with the approach of another Christmas

[endofthelinefinally]

Sending love to all the other bereaved parents out there. It is so hard.

Thank you - that's so lovely of you!

This will be my third Christmas without my Dc and I feel like hiding until it's all over.

How about you?

6 years for me and I miss him every single day. Christmas is always particularly hard though.

My Mum died suddenly last month, I just wasn't expecting it, I'm heartbroken. Getting on with Christmas for the kids sake but I'd happily give it a miss this year

I lost my DH of 35 years and my df and my da all in a row....I keep going through all the things my DH would be doing at Xmas time.....bursting out in song singing jingle bells at any random time if the day....compiling the Xmas food shopping list....telling me what's on the menu for Xmas...he always cooked.....he was a brilliant cook ...having a massive debate about the size of the tree....I liked massive...he liked small.....the list is endless....I don't know what I'm going to do....this is my 1st year without him....it's too much to bear ....I can still feel his presence with me.....I have to stay strong for my children.....these threads really help in that other people are in the same situation.....stay strong everyone.....

Thank you, OP. It isn’t quite my child but he was much younger and I helped to bring him up. DB died suddenly four months ago. He was pursuing the hobby he loved and had a medically precipitated accident. DH and I were going to have a long awaited European holiday with him a month later, postponed by Covid

He’d had a very good and successful life in many ways but he had not found a permanent relationship and had a couple of bad breaks. Things were looking up in a big way the last couple of months of his life.

I was doing a bit better until Christmas preparations intensified. Now it is all I can do to get out of bed every day. I miss him so much

We spent the first 5 years seeking out far flung places where we could hide and try our best to ignore Christmas. No cards, no gifts. A few very insensitive people sent jolly cards wishing us happiness and joy. Those went in the bin.
Six years on, we are beginning to cope a little better.
Our friendship group has shrunk.
We only spend time with people who have a little bit of empathy.
It is gradually getting easier.
The pain is still there, but we manage.
For those of you who are still very raw, I can say that it does get better.

I am so sorry. The loss of a life with so much potential is devastating.

Apologies I didnt read the OP properly and have been insensitive with my post, I will ask for it to be removed.

I am so sorry for you and for everyone else posting here too, OP. All their lives were precious beyond measure and all their losses are devastating. Maybe we can through this season together.

I am glad it is getting a bit easier for you, finally. We are going away for the reasons you say although DH did send some cards on our behalf.

I expect to miss DB every day for as long as I live. That’s fine, he’s worth it. But it was mellowing, and now it’s all harsh again to the point that it’s hard to function

Thank you 💔

Thank you, it's a very difficult time of year. Thinking of all bereaved parents at Christmas.

It is definitely a sad time of year for many people.

This month will bring the fourth Christmas without my husband, in some ways I still don't believe he has gone though things are better than they were.

My heart goes out to all on this thread, especially those who have lost children.

This is my 2nd Christmas without my darling boy. He ended his life on Christmas day 2020.

It was his 29th birthday last Friday, and tomorrow it will be 4 years since he went travelling. I only saw him once after that.

I don't think I'll ever celebrate Christmas again, I hate it. I hate December, the only "good" day is his birthday, the day he came into my life

My thoughts are with everyone who's bereaved,

Sending my love to you all

Thank you for this thread @endofthelinefinally . It's been 6 years for us too since our DD died. It is always a difficult time. 💐

Oh, @Goldenboysmum and @ThisOneNow I am so sorry for you both. Hugs.

I hate how people try to jolly you along. Just because they love Christmas. They have no idea. Love to all on here.x