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I'm chair of a toddler group, and one of our children has died..

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deegward · 01/12/2004 21:43

As some may know I am chairman of my local toddler group, it's usually lots of mine numbing boring duties which totally take over you life. But today I have been contacted to be told that one of our regulars died on Monday, after being sick, having a high temp, fitting, being taken to hosp and being placed on a life support machine on Sunday. He died on Monday.

He was only one, and an only child. I feel crap as its our Christmas party tomorrow and Friday, so will not put up annoucement until we open again on Tuesday, but have got condolence card to send.

I have to say I don't even know why I am typing this on MN, but I feel so awful as I have sat for the past hour drafting the notice.

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pixiefish · 01/12/2004 21:44

OMG. How horribly awful for his poor poor family

Bubu · 01/12/2004 21:46

Oh God how awful!!! The poor parents, I just can't imagine....

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deegward · 01/12/2004 21:46

I know,all I can think of, is that she must have done Christmas shopping for him, etc.

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Bubu · 01/12/2004 21:47

I feel so sick thinking about this - must go upstairs and give my DS a cuddle.

MissYulie · 01/12/2004 21:48

That is heartbreaking.

Shimmy21 · 01/12/2004 21:48

So sorry. What a bloody awful thing.

cardigan · 01/12/2004 21:49

How sad & terrible dw

StuffTheMagicTurkey · 01/12/2004 21:52

deegward, how terrible, poor parents and obviously you and the rest of the playgroup will be deeply affected by this, what a tragedy .

coppertop · 01/12/2004 21:52

How incredibly sad.

blossomgoodwill · 01/12/2004 21:53

How sad and tragic

warmmum · 01/12/2004 21:56

How dreadful - I can only imagine how awful this must be for poor parents.

When you say it is your christmas party tomorrow - will the other members of the group be there? Or just staff?

Can you ring round all the members of the group and canvass opinion as to what they would like to do - card, letter, flowers etc? I feel heartbroken for them and you.

LiarLiar · 01/12/2004 21:57

Oh no Poor, poor baby and poor parents

I will go and kiss my two and thank my lucky stars I have them.

FrostyTheSurfMum · 01/12/2004 23:22

This is just so sad. Those poor parents.

Gobbledigoose · 01/12/2004 23:26

Really, really sad to hear that deegward.

Really puts our own problems into perspective doesn't it?

Just cannot imagine what his parents are going through

Starofbethlibbhem · 01/12/2004 23:28

deegward, my thoughts are with you and the family - words are not enough.

Here in the libb household we are thinking of you all xxxx

nikcola · 01/12/2004 23:33

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sparkler1 · 01/12/2004 23:55

How sad. You just don't know do you? It's not until you hear about something like this that you truly appreciate what you have. Hang in there, it's not easy breaking news like that to people. xx

tigermoth · 02/12/2004 06:44

How sad, poor parents.

Will anyone know what's happened when you have your party?

I remember just before my son started nursery, a little boy of theirs had died of meningitis. The nursery had a condolence book full of messages from staff and parents. I remember reading it with tears welling up.

sparkler1 · 02/12/2004 10:12

That's a nice idea tigermoth. Like you say brings tears to your eyes but the parents will have something to look back on as a memory for years to come.

Awenamanger · 02/12/2004 10:41

Deegward,

joashiningstar · 02/12/2004 10:42

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deegward · 02/12/2004 12:58

tigermoth, what a lovely idea, I think we may do that. I hadn't wanted to put any annoucement up at the party, but leave it until next week. BTW today's party went well 100 balloons and Father Christmas

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sparklynorthernstar · 02/12/2004 13:00

Reading this has made me go cold.

Life can be so cruel

JuniperDropofbrandy · 02/12/2004 13:02

Glad the party went well for you all.

I'm so sorry for the family of the little boy, it's heartbreaking

Morgan · 02/12/2004 13:06

Hi deegward - absolutely gone cold at the thought, how awful. I am a chair of a local group and one of our members lost a baby during the first week recently and we sent a card, put a small announcement in our newsletter and have given a donation to the charity they are supporting. (it was bad as she had lost a baby the year before prematurely). We also had a member die of breast cancer recently and we have done the same.

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