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Recovery post parental death tw suicide

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Ouchiebum · 05/11/2022 13:18

My partners father committed suicide earlier this year. Completely unexpected with no warnings. He is having to support his mother with practical day to day life things.

He says he feels no connection to me, my children or his adult child. That he wants to be left alone and be by himself. He had 6 sessions of counselling and was told this is a normal reaction to a traumatic event.

he refuses any practical help from me or other family members. Doesn’t want to talk about what is happening and removes himself from family life as much as possible.

I feel like I no longer have a partner. I just share a house with a man who doesn’t want to be involved with me. I am trying to be supportive but am very close to reaching the end of my tether.

he feels he needs time and then he will hopefully come back round. I am here to ask if anyone has been through similar and if / when the feelings of dissociation stopped. I want to help him but equally can not continue like this indefinitely

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WomensLandArmy · 05/11/2022 13:31

That sounds beyond hard. I have no experience of this but I think you would not be unreasonable to seek some support for yourself outside of the family unit. This charity has some links at the bottom about supporting bereaved family members. Perhaps they could be a starting point? www.careforthefamily.org.uk/support-for-you/family-life/bereavement-support/

fannyfartlet · 05/11/2022 14:05

How long ago was his father's death? Grief is hard but also there is a need to carry on living. Does your DH know the strain he is placing on the family? I agree about getting some support for you too.

Ouchiebum · 05/11/2022 14:40

i’ve been having counselling and have a good support network so I’m doing ok. I know if I make the call to finish things he will be on his own. He has few friends and is an only sibling. I don’t want to leave him on his own but equally I can’t keep going in a relationship with someone who is so emotionally withdrawn

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ghettihead · 05/11/2022 14:47

uksobs.org/we-can-help/other-organisations/
I see you have had counseling, but this organisation might be able to help too.

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