Arguments over inheritance

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My mother steadily deteriorated over the last couple of years of her life,becoming less and less able to care for herself.My sister,who has a busy job as well as being a farmers wife,regularly travelled two hours to visit her and help.The last year mum deteriorated very quickly-the final six months my sister staying with her for five days and nights and sorting out 24 hour carers for the other days.She did everything for mum and lived there full time for the final month,sorting out carers (although she did most of it herself),medical care,equipment care and 1001 other things.When mum died,my sister organised the funeral then the sale of the house after sorting out the contents.It must have cost her a fortune,both in time and money but she never complained,just paid for everything.When the will was read,everything was divided equally between her three children.I'm disabled and live an eight hour train journey and my brother lives in Canada so neither of us did our fair share for mum and I was more than happy to give my sister a few thousand from my share.She did accept it as finances were becoming tight for her,despite the inheritance.My brother,although he is very wealthy offered nothing.
When clearing mum's possessions,my sister found £8000 in cash hidden in mum's nightwear drawer,along with a note saying my sister was to have it for everything she did.She immediately told myself and our brother-I was pleased for her to keep it,she more than deserved it but our brother said we should divide it in three.Technically he's correct,it did form part of mum's estate but my sister could easily have kept it without saying anything.My brother has no need of it-do you think he's morally in the wrong?

Your brother should respect his DM’s wishes and he should be eternally thankful for his caring DSis who looked after her.

I think you need to at least try to have this conversation with him as it’s awkward for your sister to do it. What a massively selfish knob he is.

It was your mother's wish that this money went to your sister and she left a letter which confirms this. Surely her wishes on this issue should be respected. Even if a letter of wishes isn't legal I think the moral position is clear. As your mother left this money separately in a drawer maybe she hoped your sister would just quietly take it as it was obviously meant for her but your sister is too moral herself to do that. Your mother sounds lovely. She has wisely left the bulk of her estate equally amongst you probably aiming at making sure there is no animosity between you after she is gone and showing her equal love for all of you. She has also acknowledged the amazing support at great personal sacrifice your sister gave her. There is no better way to honour your mother's memory than to respect her wishes on this issue. I hope your brother can be brought to see this. 💐

What a shame your sister can't work out what all her caring duties at £15 per hour cost and invoice the estate.

Your brother is a dick.

Your mother wanted your sister to have it. Your brother should respect his mother's wishes. Your mother obviously knew what her son was like which is probably why she left the cash in the drawer for your sister. Your brother is a dick.