How do you cope with the sadness

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Darling mum on end of life care with dementia, I've already grieved for the mum she was once but now I have to grieve all over again. She is in a care home and I hate leaving her, she looks so so sad. How do you cope with the sadness?

You sit with it. Say this is grief and let it pass, cry if you can. Then when that wave has passed ( and it will) you get on with life until the next wave. That’s how you get through the first phase. I don’t know about later on. I’m sorry about your mum.

When my Stepdad died having battled cancer for 6 months, towards the end he could only walk a few steps and he’d have to stop because he was so breathless, I found that him not being in pain outweighed the sadness I felt. It helped me think that too.
he died in 2011 and I still don’t have pictures up anywhere of him, the ones I had up before he died are now in a drawer face down. I just can’t look at them and remember him as he was happy, all I see is him X years before he got sick.