Not sure how my DP will cope

[Ithurtbad]

My DP mother funeral was over the weekend and I am 19weeks pregnant.

I have had a lot of pregnancy scares but today thinking something could be definitely wrong and wonder how my DP would cope.

I am struggling to support him as funeral was difficult as he couldn't go and we watched on zoom. Even the disappointment of not being able talk to his family after. He was very down just felt very left out and he the last born.

I just don't want anything to be wrong with the baby. Thursday I was ill but felt baby moving and I was worried and then sitting up in bed there's a lump right side of stomach no movement just it's weird trying to be positive but don't want to go through another stillbirth again. Just don't know how we both cope with this.

I need advice what to do. Should I just wait until Thursday and see if I feel baby move tomorrow or just call maternity assessment or midwife go alone and see. Tell my DP in the morning and say to come home straight away Thursday morning not say nothing..no idea very worried, scared, feel sick help.

I wouldn't wait til Thursday. Go to doctor or hospital and get a scan asap. Then you know what's happening, good or bad. It's not so much the fact of your dp seeing his family- it's your health and the baby's, that's important here.

So sorry you are alone & worried sick. I would call right away go in alone as soon as I could and get the baby checked out. You may be hyper-vigilant because of your prior loss, but I know any good midwife would understand this and be happy to check on your baby even if everything is fine. You can then update your husband if necessary when the time is right.

@Dillydollydingdong
@Discovereads

Thanks both of you think I will do that. I have a teenager who been so excited to be having a baby sis/bro.

Just dropping by to say I hope all is well with you and baby. Xx