My friend died today

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And I just don't really know what to think.
It was cancer she had breast cancer last year. She had the all clear but returned in her spine and other areas and died within a couple of months of the symptoms starting etc.
To me she was a very close friend as I have a small circles she came into my life as my ex husband left and we shared great common ground as we are both single parents. The support she's given me over the last couple years is unmeasurable -- I just don't know how I would've got through it without her.
In real life we only met up a couple of times due to Covid and her having treatment etc. We'd planned to meet this summer hols but she was too poorly.
I was pulled over in my car just scrolling and I saw someone post on social media she had passed away. My heart sank. I just can't believe I've lost a friend. I can't believe I can't message her. I can't believe she won't be there anymore. I can't believe her life has ended and she's lost her future and her son.
I feel like o shouldn't be feeling like this because she was so social with so many friends and family who have known her a lot longer etc... but she was very special to me and I'll remember her my whole life.
I just needed to say that out loud.

We only spoke less then two weeks ago. How can this happen so quickly. How can she really be gone :(

I am so sorry op. You must be devastated.

Oh god I'm so sorry 😓

So so very sorry. Life is incredibly cruel sometimes xx

So sorry for your loss. I lost a close friend 2 years ago, also to breast cancer, and it's so sad. You just want to have one more conversation with them. Thinking of you.

I’m so sorry. I do understand. Be kind to yourself in these initial weeks. It’s like waves crashing over you. I won’t lie and say it gets easier. It doesn’t. You just learn to accommodate it and as time passes I’ve found it harder tbh.

Send your condolences to her family in a card. Tell them the impact she had on you and how you’ll always be grateful for the friendship you had.

I hope you can go to the funeral and seek comfort in other friends of hers and their memories whilst sharing yours.

I'm so sorry OP. I lost a work colleague from a few years ago. I found out recently on social media and was so upset - she died unexpectedly leaving three teens and was only in her 40s. Take care of yourself.

So sorry for your loss

I'm so sorry OP.

I lost my oldest and closest friend two years ago, very suddenly and unexpectedly. The grief and loss has been unbearable at times. Be gentle with yourself x

Also my bereavement was my best friend. My compass. My rock. I was cared for by my friends and hers. I spoke at her funeral. However what I’ve realised is there were many affected by her death. Some only recently her friends. She still impacted on them in that time and her loss was felt greatly by them.

I had 25 years of her and should have had another 25 but at least I have my memories and that time with her. To have had that cut shorter should have been even more devastating. You found a kindred soul. I’m sorry she has gone.

(((HUG)))

I'm so sorry & so sorry you found out how you did.

You feel how you feel, there's nothing that says you have to have known someone 20years before you can grieve for them.

she was a very important person in your life who supported you through a very difficult time. You became very close.

it's shocking how quickly someone can go from seeming fine to dying.

🌷🌹look after yourself 🌸🌺

I'm so sorry.

So sorry, OP. Sending you every strength 💐💐💐

I'm so sorry to hear this OP, it sounds like knowing you made her life better as well as visa versa so try to hang on to that fact. Just be kind to yourself, one day at a time. Sending love.

So sorry OP. I lost my friend of 25 years 2 years ago. I still message her now, often. I know it doesn't go anywhere but it makes me feel better.

Can you still message her ?

Thank you all for your kind messages and sharing your stories ♥️
I keep finding myself on her Facebook page or scrolling through our messages.
Just in utter disbelief this has happened 😢

Yes, I recognise this. It felt as though our last (actually very trivial, lighthearted) messages to one another took on so much significance once she had gone.

My last words on Messenger to her were 'sleep well, old girl' because we were having an online conversation just before going to bed. Just seemed so unbearably poignant afterwards.

I’ve lost a close friend and it’s a hard, hard thing to go through. I kept all my friend’s last texts to me, even just Xs. 💐

I am so sorry to hear your friend has died, my best friend died in a car crash two days before our Midwifery Finals, how I passed I have no idea. I loved her like a sister and will never forget her despite being many years ago. That is the price of a loving friendship, in time you will remember the good times x

I lost my best friend one year ago today. Aggressive gastro intestinal cancer that spread to the liver and lungs. Left behind three young children. It was heartbreaking. I don’t know if I’ll ever get over it, but you do learn to live with the sorrow.

I’m so sorry for your loss, OP . It’s early days. Be gentle with yourself.