friends

[miffy04]

It was the anniversary of my child's death recently and only 1 friend reached out to me on the day. They knew about it, it wasn't a secret and I'd let people know before. I don't know what to do. Since then, friends have been texting about their everyday, mundane problems and I want to scream! I could use all the friend I can get though so I don't, I help them through their problems. Can anybody offere advice? Why do your friends seem to disappear when you lose a child?

I don't really have any advice, but just wanted to say I'm so sorry for your loss. The person who reached out to you is a real friend. Real friends focus on the support you might need too not just themselves. I think there's a few support groups out there, maybe speaking to people who understand would help.
Again I'm so sorry for your loss

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a lot of people don’t know what to say and don’t have the courage to step up

as the other poster said thst one friend js a real friend

i think if you want to it would be perfectly okay to respond to text messages from your friends about thei problems saying you can’t really help st the moment because of the anniversary

don’t put their feelings above yours

post on here about how you’re feeling about it if that would help

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Thank you both for your responses, you've made me cry! The kindness you both showed is more than I had from people I know in real life. It means the world. I know it's hard for people, nobody ever knows what to say, but to say nothing and then moan about their own problems feels like a slap in the face, that's all.

It can be hard for people but saying something is always better than saying nothing. As other poster mentioned feel free to talk on here or anything that might help you. There's always people who are willing to listen and support whether they know you or not😊

i can imagine how hurtful it would be.

so many people are very self absorbed.

ive moved around a lot and have made lots of friends but I’ve recently realised I only have one friend who is a real friend. It takes strength and courage to be a real friend.

but I also think it doesn’t necessarily mean that all of your other friends don’t really care. Just that it’s easier for them to avoid it.

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Do you want to talk abOut what you did on the anniversary day? What would you want to talk about with your friends?

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I am so sorry. Losing a child must be the most painful thing anyone can go through. Would you like to share some memories of your child with us? 💐