Neighbour lost his wife

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Known neighbours for 15 years. Lovely people, in their mid 80's. He has family to support but I am very fond of neighbour, in that he is like a grandfather to me.

I sometimes give him a meal or 2 and check in on him. Offer him a cuddle. Just like a grandad. And I've told him I see him as being a grandad.

I want to support him as I am very fond of him but he sometimes says certain things like how I am attractive etc. More things also. I think be is only joking but don't want him to get wrong idea.

I love his company and want to keep an eye on him. But don't want him getting the wrong idea

Well stopping giving him 'cuddles' would be a start. Also as soon as he says anything untoward tell him to stop. Has he got family?

Oh sorry I see that you said he had family!

If you are uncomfortable, back away as far as possible. Just leave stuff on the doorstep and ring the bell, and/or ring him. For a while anyway until things settle down.

Cuddles? WTAF... if you mean a quick hug ok, but otherwise nope, he's missing his wife and he WILL get some ideas in his grief I'd say. Poor man.

You need to back off and stop with the cuddles. He is not your grandfather and he clearly doesn't see you as a granddaughter. He's pushed boundaries and you need to step back before things get very awkward.

You need to start distancing yourself. Stop with the cuddles. Never mind his age, you are potentially putting yourself in a very uncomfortable situation.

He's a man. You are seeing him as old but he doesn't see himself as sexually over nor does he see you as a daughter. You need to adjust your boundaries. I don't know that he sounds particularly nice, saying those things when you have made it clear how you see him.