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My mum just passed away

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DumpedByText · 18/08/2022 04:45

My mum passed away this morning at 2.45. She was 80 and had a terminal lung condition, she contracted pneumonia on Saturday and the hospital said they could do no more. We didn't think she'd go so soon, my dad and brother had gone home, but something made me stay with her. She became agitated and was saying bizarre things, so the lovely nurses gave her something and then she just slept. I was watching her chest rise and fall and then it didn't. She took her final breaths with me and two nurses holding her hand. So peaceful and I'm so glad I stayed. I can't sleep and I just don't know where to begin or what to do first.

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Assistanttotheregionalmanager · 18/08/2022 04:48

I hope she rests in peace. I’m sure she felt such comfort with you being there to hold her hand.

Awqs · 18/08/2022 04:50

So so sorry for your loss, holding your hand and sending you love tonight x

Panicmode1 · 18/08/2022 04:58

I'm so sorry. Sending love and strength.

Trumpton · 18/08/2022 05:06

My heart goes out to you.
The best advice I was given was this '

“Our bodies can gallop forwards, but sometimes our souls haven't caught up. If you have an opportunity to be quiet and be present, take it. Accept and acclimatize and adjust to what's happening. Then, as the train starts rolling, and all the things that happen after a death kick in, you'll be better prepared.

You won't get a chance to catch your breath later on. You need to do it now.

Being present in the moments after death is an incredible gift to yourself, it's a gift to the people you're with, and it's a gift to the person who's just died. They're just a hair's breath away. They're just starting their new journey in the world without a body.”

So , find a quiet place, sit with a candle and be at peace.

You sound truly lovely, I am so glad you could be with her .

Junelove · 18/08/2022 05:07

So sorry to read this - sending lots of love and strength to you x

Monday55 · 18/08/2022 06:12

I'm sorry for your loss Flowers

Isyesterdaytomorrowtoday · 18/08/2022 06:16

So sorry for your loss but glad you could be with her as she passed. It sounds very peaceful which I hope is a comfort to you x

Roselilly36 · 18/08/2022 06:20

So sorry for your loss OP Flowers. I know no words can comfort you.

Bunnyfluffles · 18/08/2022 15:32

So sorry to hear this. Sending love as mine died yesterday. Xxxxxxx

InquiringMinds · 18/08/2022 15:43

My heart goes out to you.

I lost my Mum a year ago and not a day goes by that I don’t miss her. It’s as though part of me has gone too. I truly believe though that she is still with me somehow and I hope you do too with your Mum.

I love that you stayed with your Mum. Know you are not alone, we are all here for you 🪷

Bunnyfluffles · 18/08/2022 16:07

Would you like to chat? Ot type? It might help to type. Massive hugs

MassiveSalad22 · 18/08/2022 16:09

Oh I’m so sorry. It sounds like a peaceful death 💐

bilbodog · 18/08/2022 16:52

So sorry to read this - take some comfort from the fact that you were with her. Best wishes 💐

PollyIndia · 18/08/2022 17:45

So sorry. I lost my mum in march and my dad 2 weeks ago. I have found that my world has shifted on its axis and I don't expect it will ever shift back. Maybe I'll just get more used to it.
So sorry for your loss. I feel she would have been glad you were there.

Purplepeoniesdroppingpetals · 20/08/2022 11:36

Really sorry for your loss,op. Try not to gallop straight into arrangements - I found sitting in silence in the sunshine helped me to be calm the day after - maybe it gave me some strength to deal with what followed (felt like it did) - take care

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