Way to remember baby's grandad on her christening day

[Mummyof287]

Baby DD2 is getting christened next Sunday....I am using some of the money my dad left me to put towards paying for the celebration, as he was religious and always enjoyed communal celebrations.

Sadly he died last November when she was only 3 weeks old...he had never had the chance to meet her in person due to being in hospital, covid rules & risks etc, so I don't even have a photo of them together :(

I would like to include some sort of recognition of his memory within the event....any ideas as to how I could do that please?

I should add that I am putting her little bouquet on his grave at some point after...I just would like something more public to remember him by during the actual day

I’m so sorry, that is so hard for you op. What about maybe playing a favourite song of his? Or perhaps even asking for a prayer dedicated to him at the beginning of the ceremony, asking people to think of him for a few moments?

Can she use a version of his name at all as a middle name?

My dd has two middle names, one of which is the feminised version of my dad's name.

At children's christenings we did the following to remember my brother:-

We played the hymn he loved (& had at his funeral) and the reverend kindly said a few words before the hymn i.e. why we had chosen it etc.

For the lighting of the candle, we were allowed to provide our own and got a personalised white candle that mentioned my brother and how he would be watching over them

My Son did have my brother's name and again the reverend said a few words why we had chosen the name.

Perhaps, when you give your thanks to God, you could ask the vicar to say words of thanks to your Dad? It could be for his love, his guidance or his wisdom that you hope to pass to your child or something along those lines?

Explain the situation to the priest and see what they suggest. They'll have done it a hundred times over and will remember the nicest way late family members were included.

What about using your Dad's favourite drink for a toast. Sorry if that's not appropriate - the above suggestions do seem more appropriate for a Christening.

Sorry for your loss - that must be really hard for you.