Sudden death of nephew-part 2

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I lost my nephew in April. We were very close. He was only 26 and it was sudden and tragic. It’s now been 4 months and, whilst the pain is always there (I feel so, so sad for his parents…my sister and brother in law and his siblings), I’ve been able to function again and get back to some kind of ‘normality’. However, whenever I’m doing something nice (holidays, theatre, eating out), I feel incredibly guilty that I’m ‘enjoying’ myself when he can’t. He absolutely loved life and made the most of every opportunity.
I know he would want all of us to continue living life to the full but I just can’t. Is this normal?

I'm so sorry. I lost one of my best friends in March in a bike crash. He was only 30 and so full of life. We had so many plans for this summer and I feel the same. I was with DP (it was his best friend and they were so close) at the beach last week and we both felt so sad that he wasn't there with us.

I’m so sorry for your loss Dartmoorcheffy. That is so tragic. I feel your pain 😢

I know what you mean about the pain. Its an almost physical one that hits you in waves. I'm hoping that when all the "firsts" are over, Xmas, anniversary etc it might feel a bit easier. I expect you feel something similar. It's affected me more than losing my parents in all honesty as they were both much much older and it was less of a shock. Losing your parents is something you mentally prepare for. Losing j was and still is unimaginable.

Yes, I know what you mean. For your friend and my nephew, it is just so tragic and untimely. I know you must feel robbed of him just as we do of our dearest D.

Thinking of you and sending love and strength xx