Silly question - dress code???

[theluckiest]

DMum's funeral is in a couple of weeks. I know this is a silly thing to ask (& TBH really doesn't matter in the big scheme of things) but I have no idea what to wear.

I presumed black as her family are quite traditional. But she was also a person that liked to do her own thing. DDad has suggested a smart dress code but any colour.

I'm stumped. I'm haven't a bloody clue. With one thing and another, I don't want to be stressing about what to wear!!

And Apols for my post - I don't want to seem flippant. I know this stuff doesn't really matter but don't want to feel uncomfortable on top of everything else I'll be feeling.

Any suggestions?

Sombre, semi formal, ie work suit or dress and jacket, trousers or modest skirt, comfy shoes. Simple jewellery, Not party clothes, not too short or revealing.

Do you want to try a few things on and post photographs of yourself in the mirror for a few opinions?

Unless I was told differently I’d go for black or dark colours - though I dressed my youngest in a white dress when her grandad died she was nearly 2.

We went to a funeral recently which asked for a tie/scarf to be colourful.

Something simple and subdued. You need to feel like yourself too. And wear comfortable shoes.

I think grey is a good colour. I went head to toe black for my parents because that was traditional in our community, but for younger relatives I've worn grey or brown.

The funeral director's advice to us last time, was to say, if people asked "Please don't feel you have to wear black." People will tend to dress respectfully in a suit or equivalent.

I'm sorry about your mum