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My Nan shed a tear when she passed

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shannonhinton0421 · 31/07/2022 22:44

I was with my Nan when she passed away. I was holding her hand as she passed, she was extremely poorly after a major heart attack.
When I arrived at the hospital she told me she loved me, she couldn't see me I don't think even though her eyes were open, I asked her if she was comfortable and she told me she was, I asked if she was warm and she said yes, she didn't seem sad. I told her how much I love her and how much everyone loved her. It was only me and dad with her when she passed away.
I kissed her on her head and told her it was ok, everything was going to be ok, for the first time since I was there she squeezed my hand and shed 1 tear, after that she took her last final breaths.
Does anyone know why this may be? My Nan suffered for the final years of her life, she has dementia along with other health problems, she was such a selfless amazing women. I miss her so much.

I feel so alone right as I feel I was with her on my own when she passed and my dad isn't really effected my death as unbelievable as it sounds. I know in his own way he is but he just gets on with life like nothing happened, he hasn't cried and now he's talking about not giving her funeral because it's a waste of money and we are just making other people richer.
Im 26 I've been with both my grand parents as they took their last breath.
I know I was my Nan favourite, she was my favourite, I just hope she shed a tear a happiness and saw her mom on the other side.

OP posts:
Hallamus · 31/07/2022 23:31

My sympathies OP, you sound like an amazing granddaughter and as these things go, it sounds like your Nan had a good death, with you by her side.

I'm sorry your dad is being so closed off. Would you think about a few sessions with a counsellor to help you carry on grieving in a healthy way? It's hard because you can't make your dad open up more obviously but you must need to talk.

I think there's often a surge of brain activity right before death? So somebody could experience a lot of different emotions/ memories - as likely to be happy as sad.

I just hope she shed a tear a happiness and saw her mom on the other side

I hope so too OP. Take care of yourself Flowers

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