Dad died today

[Excitablemuch]

My Dad died today. We had to withdraw life support due to Covid and secondary infections. He was immuno suppressed due to chemo (which he had nailed). It was the right decision, he had been so poorly since March and was going to have no quality of life.
He was 70. In the gym 3 times a week until March and has very young grandchildren.
I am sad but proud of my mum, brother and I for being there today. It was brutal. They aren’t lying about this disease it has changed the world forever. My dad had no retirement and spent lockdown having chemo, he did everything right and was so fit. It feels so unfair. 5/6 glasses of wine are helping even though I am exhausted! Not sure why I am posting other than to say until this disease is really prevalent in your life you don’t get it. I am going to have to speak at the funeral- I am the confident one- but I feel so worried about it.
I am so grateful we were with him. They aren’t lying it is a horrendous disease and I can’t imagine people being on their own. Guess I am after a handhold don’t feel like I can get it in real life - I am a the ‘strong one’
Something I got from my dad actually!

I am so sorry, sending a handhold to you.💐❤

I’m so sorry for your loss. Your dad sounds ace. Sending you a big hand squeeze and another glass. Followed by a cuppa. Take care and take it one day at a time.

I am so sorry. Life is so shit sometimes. 💐

I'm so sorry OP 💐

That is a terrible loss, before his time. I'm so sorry for you all.

Take it one step at a time. The whole process of bereavement is exhausting & draining. Try your hardest to eat a little and try to rest, even if you find it hard to sleep.

So sorry for your loss

He was ace. An obstinate, cantankerous git! Who, despite ventilator removal still tried to go on for an hour and a half to stay with us. I get my stubbornness from him and can see it in my youngest child (at only .16 months). Currently watching Friday Night Dinner with my little bro - the Dad is just like him 😂
He fought so hard and it feels so unfair.

I am sorry for your loss. I'm sure you will do your Dad proud when you talk about him. You've already put into words what kind of man he was here. x

So sorry OP. This is such a sad sad time for you. It is a precious gift to be with someone when they go. I hope in years to come you will be able to find comfort in that.

I'm so sorry that you've lost your DDad this way. I lost mine in January - covid on top of other things, really it was the other things that did it and covid was the coup de grace, so not quite the same as you. But like you, I was the strong one for others and held it together until I was on the way hone after the funeral. Sometimes that's just the way you roll. Regarding the eulogy you're planning to give, I found there are lovely examples online which I used for inspiration, and even though it was really tough to do and I keep thinking of things I'd have done differently now, I'm so glad I did that for him. Bit there's time for all that and the most important thing now is to feel the loss and acknowledge your grief and how much has changed today. Sending you solidarity.

So sorry to read this ❤️

@MyBottomDecides i can’t let anyone else do it; I would regret it. It will be full of sarcasm as he would have liked. In fact when I spoke at my grandmother’s he said I was too quick so I shall be certain to mention that!!!!
Next stop is explaining it to the 4 year old. I feel so guilty for having children so late. His grand boys were the light of his life… I’ve ordered a couple of books for the eldest and I am sure how I deal with it will lead everything. My husband is amazing and will be there for me every step.

It’s so impossibly unfair isn’t it… and yet I read stories of that 9 year old girl today and think I am so lucky to have had such a good dad who cared for me so much and privileged to have been there for him.

when I kissed him goodbye he jumped (despite the nurse telling me he’s gone) definite parting shot to scare me/ make me laugh. Just his style!

I am so sad reading this

Love to you and your family

You have done your father proud

So so hard (just out of a and e with my dad )

So sorry. Such a difficult way to lose someone you love. Glad you were with him. Speaking at his funeral means you can say all the wonderful things about him, remember all the lovely things.

My Dad died 6 years ago and I think about him every single day. It does get easier with time, but I wish my dad was here. I did his eulogy and tbh just reverted to childhood. I spoke about my Daddy and how he made my childhood the absolute best.

I am so sorry. I lost my Dad three years ago at 71. It really sucks. 💐

So sorry OP. I'm very glad and proud of you for doing what was right, and being there with him. He would've felt as loved as he is. I hope you and your family find peace with your loss x

I am so sorry for your loss @Excitablemuch your Dad sounds wonderful. May he rest in peace Xxx

I'm so sorry for your loss OP. You sound wonderful and he will continue on in you and your family

It sounds like you'll be able to absolutely convey his spirit and what he meant to you.

This book helped my children when my DDad died - might be nice for yours: www.google.com/url?sa=t&source=web&rct=j&url=www.goodreads.com/book/show/24907303-grandad-s-island&ved=2ahUKEwihpKCHoZ_5AhWMh_0HHa5VA2gQFnoECEsQAQ&usg=AOvVaw2rLzpqCYGx0eFUduHtCDkk

@MyBottomDecides the exact book I have ordered and badgers parting gifts ;)

Gosh, you're very on it! Hope it helps them - and you too.

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Sorry for your loss op 💐

So sorry to hear that OP. I have a family friend with a very similar story today. This Covid is just so awful and unfair. Big hugs.