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My younger brother died suddenly

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Nathleia · 26/07/2022 15:00

My 11 years younger brother died suddenly yesterday morning. He was 33 years old. I remember looking after him when we were children although in recent years we drifted apart. He had a big heart of pure gold even if his mind let him down. He was a poet, he was generous to a fault. He was loved unconditionally!
I have to wait until the 28th before I can travel to be with my parents and other siblings. Words cannot describe the grief, I cannot quantify it, I've tried! We don't know the circumstances or the cause of his death yet. I am the eldest and feel the responsibility to be strong for my parents and younger siblings but these feels unbearable.

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maudesvagina · 26/07/2022 15:01

I'm so sorry for your loss.

Lollywillowes · 26/07/2022 15:02

I am so sorry for your loss. Nothing will break the bond and the importance of him to you, not even death. I hope you have support and comfort around you. Journalling can be really helpful in those indescribable moments - it can make sense of the difficult grief process.

Yika · 01/08/2022 19:43

I am so sorry for your loss. What an awful shock.

butterfly990 · 01/08/2022 19:44

There is a group called Compassionate Friends in Facebook that maybe able to support you.

Sorry for your loss x

StrawberryPot · 01/08/2022 19:50

So very sorry for your loss 😞

whiteroseredrose · 01/08/2022 19:53

I'm so sorry for your loss. What a horrendous shock.

I hope that you are now with your family.

flowertoday · 01/08/2022 21:05

So sorry for your loss. Hope you are with your family and that you are able to support each other 💐🦋

LemonsOnSaleAgain · 01/08/2022 21:09

So sorry, OP. FlowersFlowersFlowers

Ontomatopea · 01/08/2022 21:10

I'm so sorry

frenchfancy55 · 04/08/2022 19:35

I am so sorry for your loss. As an eldest child I know how it feels like the responsibility for your parents and siblings is all on your shoulders but remember you are all grown ups now and can pull together.

I hope that you are now with your family.

Nathleia · 05/08/2022 13:35

Thank you for your messages. I appreciate it.

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FatArse123 · 23/08/2022 16:39

I am so sorry for your loss, OP. I suffered something similar a few years back. I still don't think I can quantify my experience in words, but I have learnt to bear it (and be happy, eventually/incredibly). I think you will too, it just takes a long time. Sibling loss isn't very well supported in my experience, I echo PP mentioning the compassionate friends; they can support your parents, and you too, they have a sibling support group called sibs I think, they send me newsletters and it's good to remember we're not alone. I also think whatsyourgrief is a great website.

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