Living Nightmare

[Katy77]

I have just found out that my baby has a serious malformation problem. We think we have made the decision not to continue with the pregnancy. I am 21 weeks pregnant with a little girl - she is very active at the moment and seems intent on changing my mind. I just don't know what to do. I think to bring her into the world to suffer would be cruel or should she at least be given the chance? I'm in limbo at the moment with the hospital - haven't really told them of our decision what support can they offer or will we be left on our own?

katy77, sorry for your loss. Your little girl is always with you.

Katy77, just read your heartbreaking thread & just wanted to say how sorry I am for your loss & that I am sending you a big hug.xxx

Hi Katy77, I hope things went as well as they could for you on Sunday. Thinking of you.

sorry you've had this happen.

Hi Katy - so sorry you lost your little girl. We lost our first baby at 21 weeks - she had anencephaly, and I was induced like you. It's so so hard, but there will be more peaceful days ahead.

As for trying again - this is very personal and difficult. Remember that your hormones are all over the place right now, and this, in me, led to a terrible desire to get pregnant again RIGHT NOW. As our daughter had a neural tube defect, I had to take high dose folic acid for 3 months before trying again, and this was quite useful for me. You should talk to your consultant about when to try again (medically) and if you need to take anything - taking folic acid beforehand is a good idea anyway - and then it's up to you and your partner.

The SANDS board www.uk-sands.org was brilliant for me - the forum is fantastic.

Hope you have brighter days soon. Thinking of you and your little girl.