Not sure what I'm asking for here. Maybe advice? Maybe someone to just say hang in there? Some of this is bereavement, grief, and some health.
My FIL died at the start of March. He had a heart attack at home. MIL attempted cpr followed by the ambulance crew. I was the one who got to her and dealt with things happening at the time, rang DH and SIL, told MIL he'd gone. Shortly after the funeral, MIL had a long awaited hip replacement. DH stayed with his mum for most of the time, I worked as work wouldn't give me special leave, did all the school runs and kept everything going. MIL's hip replacement went well, she's now been given the OK by the consultant and told to 'live her life'. However now she's not got anything to focus on almost so she's now very upset. Coupled with this she's also in a mess physically as she just can't keep any food down. This started after her hip replacement and has gotten worse even though she's off all meds now. She suffers from IBS and is also diabetic. She's now feeling crap, lost 1.5 stone, got no energy. Very limp.
The main thing I'm asking about is how to handle both MIL's grief, health, and DH's. MIL is just crying at DH all of the time. DH is grieving himself. We pick MIL up to come here every Sunday for tea. It's usually awful. Mil is upset. The kids (5 & 7) act up. DH wants them to behave and ends up shouting at them and apologising to MIL. We're just in a bit of a pickle with it.
The rest of the week SIL works from her house x3, dh x1, me or SIL x1, I'm cooking her some meals but infrequently, SIL visits Sat, we do Sun, I think we're running a bit empty and things are still bad. I'm about out of emotional resilience. Doesn't help that I've fallen out of love with my job and feeling stressed.
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Reluctantadult · 19/06/2022 14:55
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