Family member passed away work keep calling

[tiltheveryend]

So, my grandma passed away the other day. I’ve taken time off work as I’m still not in a fit state to work but also there to support my dad as well. However, my manager kept calling me the day the I told her. Obviously I phoned her to say that my relative had dead and wouldn’t be coming for obvious reasons. But that same day she kept calling me after about 3 times, to point where I had to call my senior manager to ask them to get her to stop. Calling me.



I now if guilty about going to my senior manager & worried about what my line manager will say when I go back in next Monday!

[coffeecupsandfairylights]

It depends why they're calling.

I've worked in places where you automatically get a weeks' compassionate leave when a grandparent dies and other places where you get nothing.

So - what's your company policy and what did you say when you rang to say you wouldn't be at work?

[Pluvia]

@tiltheveryend

So for some content as people have asked, I told my work a few weeks ago that my grandma was in fact it was terminal so I pre warned work about it, so they where aware. My work are very good when it comes to bereavement. I’ll give them a call tomorrow and let them know what happening m, more likely I’ll probably be back in work next work

Oh, you will, will you? How very good of you.

[Cotherstone]

@tiltheveryend

So for some content as people have asked, I told my work a few weeks ago that my grandma was in fact it was terminal so I pre warned work about it, so they where aware. My work are very good when it comes to bereavement. I’ll give them a call tomorrow and let them know what happening m, more likely I’ll probably be back in work next work

Then she was definitely NBU to call. I’m sorry for your loss but you can’t just not tell work what you are doing.

[Oblomov22]

Work next week? I think to assume a week off without talking it through, whereas they would classically only offer 1 day, or 2 days, herein lies your problem.

[Bettethebuilder]

@tiltheveryend

So for some content as people have asked, I told my work a few weeks ago that my grandma was in fact it was terminal so I pre warned work about it, so they where aware. My work are very good when it comes to bereavement. I’ll give them a call tomorrow and let them know what happening m, more likely I’ll probably be back in work next work

Are you saying you haven’t been in contact since your grandma died? That you haven’t told them already when they might expect you back? Or have you not phoned them every day to tell them you won’t be in? Are you taking leave? What have you asked them to do, and have they agreed?

[BobbinHood]

I’m very sorry for your loss.

If your manager doesn’t know when you’ll be back then I’m not surprised they have been calling you, especially since you’ve written it here that you’ll “probably” be back next week.

At my work there is no automatic entitlement to compassionate leave for a grandparent. I would be expected to call and discuss with my manager the specific circumstances so that we could agree together how long I would be off for and what form that leave would take. Which I think is perfectly reasonable to be honest.

[MrJollyLivesNextDoor]

Well it sounds as though you haven't actually properly notified them of your absence, and just not turned up 🤷‍♀️

If so YABVU

[Eggshausted]

When my Dad died, my GP kindly wrote me a note stating ‘bereavement reaction’ .Maybe you can ring your surgery, speak to the Dr if necessary, and they can normally leave the cert at reception.

[Kezzie200]

I've just lost my Mum.

I've had quite a bit of time off but it's all been holiday, some was scheduled too and a coincidence on timing. I'm behind on my annual leave but will either take a week unpaid at some point or work it up, employers choice. I work 3 days week, so it's possible for me to do that.

My daughter was given 2 days and work allowed her to take some annual leave too, as she had so far to travel plus was very close to her Nan.

It's hard though. I'm a pretty focused individual but it knocked my brain for 6.