Hi
I turn 40 tomorrow. What was going to be a celebration is just nothing and I just want it over. Mum died very suddenly aged 66, last December. No warning. She was here and gone.
In her safe was my 40th birthday present. I dont want it. I can't even look at the box, which has a small label on it in her hand writing.
Mum would have baked a cake (her hobby) and she would have arrived on doorstep and swept in filling my house with her presence.
Dad's just not like that. He has bought me a present. And we are close he is just very quiet and reserved. He always thinks he is intruding if he made a fuss or made a decision without consulting me. My son is with his dad as his dad wouldn't swop days with me. Dp is disabled so has very little money. I cover all the bills and share my wage with him as i earn well, but it seems weird to spend my own money on gifts for myself. He always feels shit that he has to use my money for things like this (he only gets a small amount of pip he refuses to see shared money as shared). Trying to leave the house with all his equipment is difficult anyway. Mum would have worked round it.
She knew how hard it was for me working and trying to care for dp and ds. She made sure I always felt special on my birthday.
I dont know why I am writing this. No one can help but I have never felt so alone in my life. Since she died everything is getting worse. My physical health is declining, my joints ache I am putting weight on I feeling shit. Emotionally and physically, I feel like I am shutting down. I just want her back.
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Butfirstcoffees · 24/04/2022 19:59
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