Feeling unsettled

[EmmaH2022]

Apologies for the self centred post
I spent the day with a friend who has very recently lost their father
All the steps she is going through are so depressingly familiar
I got home and was just hugely unsettled and mostly munched my way through the deja vu

You'd think after four years I would be able to support someone going through it without feeling that horrible feeling myself
Now it's 10pm and I still have to get ready for the week now....

Gah. Wish I could just shake it off. Just wanted to get that out.

I am sorry for your loss op (and for your friend's too).

Four years is no time at all and no you shouldn't necessarily be able to "shake off" your grief or that of someone else. Your friend's anguish will have brought to the fore the grief that you are still living with every day. But you did a good thing to help her

There is no time limit on grief and it can be gingered up again by lots of things. I am sure your friend valued your time - well done.

You are not being self centered, I think it's a very normal reaction. I'm very sure your friend is very grateful for your support

Thank you
It's not grief bubbling up
It's bad memories of all the stuff that links to that period of time

Not sure how to explain it really
Thank you for listening

I might just try to have an early night and set the alarm for earlier to get stuff done before work tomorrow.

I'm now facing losing my DM in the next 6 to 12 months. I don't want to do it again - it was awful enough with my DF. I totally understand how you are feeling.

@vipersnest1

I'm now facing losing my DM in the next 6 to 12 months. I don't want to do it again - it was awful enough with my DF. I totally understand how you are feeling.

I'm sorry vipers

@EmmaH2022, thank you.
Yes, absolutely have an early night or whatever else you want. Living with difficult memories is hard.