Still born at 25+6

[Nadmo]

It has been 2 weeks exactly since I was told that my beautiful daughters heart had stopped beating. I gave birth to my angel on 1/3/22 at 9:04am. She weighed 2 weeks heavier than her gestation and looked just like her daddy. I feel numb, angry, heartbroken, empty and like nothing will ever make this pain go away. We named our baby girl Valentina Reign. She was our first baby and all we had ever dreamed of and more. I had a straightforward pregnancy and she was SO active. I felt her move very early on despite being told I had an anterior placenta and not to expect movement until 22weeks + our gorgeous girl let me know she was there from 16 weeks and soon after my partner started to feel her beautiful kicks. She was obsessed with her daddy and would do somersaults whenever she could hear his voice. Please someone tell me this gets easier. I miss my baby girl so much, the thought of living without her kills me and I can’t stop thinking what I could have done to stop this from happening.

I'm so sorry for your loss. My auntie had a stillborn baby over 30 years ago she talks about her today 💕. I just wanted to come here and say there are some wonderful people on social media doing great things to raise awareness of still born babies. There is a charity called Little forget me nots on Instagram who have recently started to make some personalised sweaters to remember babies lost. Also there seems to be a very well known girl who wrote a book about her wee baby Teddy "Ask me his name" by Ellie Wright. Instagram gives me comfort on some other matters and I know baby loss is shared and supported well too. ❤

@whatajuckingfoke - I had no idea re the DNA. Thank you for that info x

I’m so sorry for your loss, it’s truly heartbreaking and I can’t sympathise enough.

I lost my son at 24 weeks and it really is the worst thing to go through. The days are hard and long but you will get through it, I promise. Sadly, you do just learn to live with it. I was in denial for around 3 months (I even left the funeral and was genuinely convinced I was in a dream) I had counselling and that helped me work through my feelings a bit. You will smile, laugh, and have hope again one day, I know it doesn’t feel like it now, but you will.

As others have said, when you feel ready, please don’t feel guilty to go on to have another baby. I was wracked with guilt while trying and when I was pregnant, but ultimately my DD really helped heal me. I’ll always miss my son, I’ll always love him, he’ll always be my first baby and one I will forever long for.

You do whatever it is that helps make you feel a bit better, wether that’s reading a book, having some retail therapy, binge watching a series (I took to cleaning - it was therapeutic and kept my mind busy)

You take care of yourself xx

Hello everyone, I wondered if you could all sign my petition to make the ‘sticky blood’ test mandatory in pregnancy. It makes me so mad that so many pregnancy’s losses could be avoided because of this.

petition.parliament.uk/petitions/616060/sponsors/new?token=0_ZIy70gLab2ydc_09mu