lboogy what a lovely thoughtful friend you are.
My husband died last summer. I am so grateful for the kindness of neighbours and friends. Messages initially may be easier than phone calls. I read them all even if I couldn't or didn't always reply.
After a few weeks when family returned home and people backed away, I really appreciate a close friend who turned up with a bag of well chosen treats on my wedding anniversary.
I also had a close friend who called to check on me every few days often with pastries and occasionally flowers and another friend who met up for a walk and a coffee.
I was touched by my next door neighbour who turned up with home cooked food and another neighbour on two occasions with freshly baked bread. This was not directly after he died but in a month or so after. Their thoughtfulness really helped.
Don't ask her do you need any shopping done, as she will probably say no as it is often too hard to think what you really need. However a hamper/box of food/things she really likes would be much appreciated. My work colleagues made me a hamper of tea/coffee and food treats. They had added food from where I originally come from which my children as well as I were grateful for.
Above all listen if she wants to talk. Talking helps even if it makes her upset. Sometimes friends are easier to talk to than family as they are grieving too. If you can help sometimes with practical things in the days moving forward this may also help.