How do you get back to caring about everyday things?

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DH died in the summer.

I had some time off work and a phased return. I have some good friends and have been keeping busy with an active social life and a hobby. I'm back to work full time now and that has helped.

I'm "OK", my biggest trauma ATM is worrying about DC, especially 18yo DS who is clearly struggling but not talking, but I'm OK myself.

However, I find I really couldn't care less about all the little things, which makes being contentious at work incredibly difficult. I have a middle management post dealing with people and their worries and for many of them now my (internal) response is FGS! It's also a job where the little details make a difference and I just don't care anymore.

I'm enjoying being back at work and around people, but I'm finding it very hard to do the job well, which I was very good at before. How do I come back from this?

Yeah it’s hard. It just takes time.
When I went back to work I didn’t care about anything. All the reporting deadlines, politics….who cares…it’s all meaningless when you die anyway.
4 years on and I care about my job again (still not as much as I did though!)
If you enjoy being around people that’s good. Use it some sort of therapy for a while. Be prepared to question the meaning of your existence… you may want a change. But the only thing that helped me get through is the passage of time.

I'm so sorry about your DH.

My way is to fake it with real commitment. Act like stuff matters. Focus on one small thing at a time and let it matter - not in a stressy way, just, let it be what you focus on, for now. Whether that's making a healthy dinner, paying a bill or dealing with a petty customer. When people get upset about petty things I always assume there is an underlying grief there which they can't deal with so they prefer to let off steam over trivia. that might help you feel a bit more connected to them, maybe.