When to give daughter handprints of her dad

[Jackson21]

HI alll

Thanks for reading.

My daughter is 14 and her dad died last year of covid, he was working away so they hadn't seen him since xmas and he died in a hospital 4 hours away from home.

The last year has been a massive struggle obviously, she is having weekly councelling, we visit the grave every week, doesn't go to school (has outreach), doesn;t sleep well etc but my question is the hospital took handprints of dad and I don't know when to give them to her or if there's a right time.

Anyone been in a similar situation?

thanks x

Hi OP, I don't know the answer to your question but I recommend Winston's Wish's free helpline. I used them when my dd's dad died as I'd questions about the funeral (she's much younger than your dd). They were very kind and helpful. Hugs to your daughter x

I wouldn't necessarily give them to her as such, I'd start a memory box and include them. Let her know that she can add things to it or browse it at any time she likes

Can you let her know they exist and ask her to let you know if and when she wants them? I think 14 is old enough to decide for herself. You sound like you're doing a great job supporting her. So sorry you're going through this

Thanks all, the hospital sent down a memory box as he was poorly for 6 weeks so had get well cards and stuff but i just dont know if she is ready to see his hand prints and a lock of his hair.

Its take til christmas for her to stop wearing his jacket (a fleece) and she takes a bear everywhere we go that he bought for her at xmas that says hug me.