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Oh, it's just shit, isn't it?

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peachgreen · 14/02/2022 23:58

Almost 16 months in from losing my lovely husband and soulmate to cardiac arrest and honestly, I think in some ways it's worse than ever. The anxiety-ridden panicky horror of the early days is mostly gone, thank God, but I'm left with this complete lack of colour, this sense that nothing is ever going to be anything other than bleak again. I still can't comprehend that someone so wonderful and vital and brilliant can just be gone, just like that, and that I'll never see him again. And the more time goes by, the more I'm convinced that he was it for me and there won't ever be anybody else. He was just so perfect for me that I don't see how there can be.

I'm so tired of it all. I'm alive solely for my little girl, because I refuse to leave her alone. But there's no joy in it any more. There's no joy in anything without him.

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Millicent2022 · 15/02/2022 00:02

Oh so so sorry my lovely

Same happened to my dad - it took a long time for my mum to smile again but she did although life never will be the same again

Just wanted to send you a massive hug . So unfair ( xxx

merrymouse · 15/02/2022 06:32

Just giving you a hand hold and a virtual hug.

Yes, sometimes life is JUST SHIT!

I’m posting on MN at 6.30 because that is easier than getting up and getting on. (3am Valentines Day drive to emergency oncology yesterday morning…lying on his side of the bed and hoping he will get out of hospital soon).

Do you have anyone in RL who understands the ‘it’s just shit stuff?’.

FlowersBrew

LadyGagagagaga123 · 15/02/2022 06:43

I often think of you x

peachgreen · 15/02/2022 10:16

Thank you everyone Flowers

@merrymouse I do sort of, my best friend lost her dad around the same time as I lost my husband and she understands as much as anyone can understand someone else's grief. But she is very far away, geographically. I really just need someone who can make me a cup of tea and give me a cuddle when things get so bad. Which of course is what my husband would have done. Life feels very lonely.

I'm so sorry you're going through that. The time Mike was in hospital was probably the worst of my life, even worse than when he died in many ways. Sending you strength.

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merrymouse · 15/02/2022 10:24

Sending you strength right back! I’m off to find someone to give me a cup of tea, but have also got to fit in some life admin and work today. ‘Shit’ is very time consuming isn’t it!

I have found Stacey Heale on Instagram writes very well about this stuff.

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