How soon is too soon?

[HoliHormonalTigerlilly]

A friend died suddenly about a year ago leaving her husband & 3 kids. Devastating for all concerned.
He's now dating a mutual friend. I want him to feel happy. So, I'm not sure why, but it just feels quite soon. Has anyone else felt like this?
I don't know why I feel like this.

Men usually move on faster than women do.

Was thinking this too.

I think a year is fine. It doesn’t mean that he is “over” the death of your friend, it just means he is ready for companionship. It’s incredibly lonely being a young widow/widower. I know it’s hard for you, but he’s not doing anything wrong.

Whenever he feels ready, then it’s time. It’s not up to outsiders to judge and tbh it’s v irritating for widows when outsiders think they have a right to an opinion on whether it’s too soon.

Whatever he wants to do and whenever he wants to do it is fine. Are you the grief police?

My wife died 18 months ago. I'm still married to her. We all grieve in our own way/time frame.

@MissLucyEyelesbarrow

I think a year is fine. It doesn’t mean that he is “over” the death of your friend, it just means he is ready for companionship. It’s incredibly lonely being a young widow/widower. I know it’s hard for you, but he’s not doing anything wrong.

I totally agree. Rationally. I'm not judging him. I just noticed that I felt it somewhere within and wondered why.

I would never mention this in real life obvs.

We are all unique and grieve in our own way

There is no fixed time to move on when a partner dies

@Joystir59

My wife died 18 months ago. I'm still married to her. We all grieve in our own way/time frame.

If course we do. And I'm sorry for your loss. And people sometimes have feelings about things they may not rationally understand or want to feel. They may not share them. But they can still have them 🤷‍♀️