Utter Rage

[mrsbobbelcherakalinda]

I lost my lovely mum 3 years ago and my dad nearly 2. They were still relatively young and were enjoying bring retired and having grandchildren. The last few years of their life were so hard for them both in and out of hospital and my dad had Parkinson's. Sometimes I feel this utter utter rage of the injustice of it all that their last few years were hard plus they were separated due to my dad in a care home.My mums friends of the same age or older I still see out and about and although it's nice to see them it makes me more heartbroken and angry that my lovely parents are no longer here.Sorry I mostly have come to terms with it and I don't miss how hard it was the last few months (I nearly had a breakdown trying to deal with them both) but my god I just miss them and how they would be so proud of their grandchildren.

I'm so sorry OP.

I don't know the right thing to say to comfort you other than I understand. I lost a sibling 18 months ago at a young age and I still feel so angry sometimes that they died and other people got to live.

My DF died young and never met my children. A relative died due to childbirth so only held her child once.
The reason I say this is because there’s always someone worse off, and I hope that eventually you get to remember the good things about their lives rather than the bad bits at the end. When you get a bad thought push it away and think about something good instead 💐

I get it op, my poor mum probably have had another 15 years of good health if she hadn’t caught covid. I feel rage when I think of her lying alone in that hospital bed for a month without us there to comfort her. I feel perplexed when I see much older parents of friends in much worse health planning their birthdays or holidays. I’d give anything just to have my mum back for one more day.

It gets easier.My Mum died aged 57 .I was angry at first, but have now come to terms with it,

Oh, yes.
I remember this.
Check out "you'll get over it: the rage of bereavement" by Virginia ironside. Ifound it really helpful x

@mrsbobbelcherakalinda it's the worst feeling missing a parent who died far too soon. Sending my sympathy and understanding to you, my mum should of had Another 20/25 years so much time , life, memories and love just gone

I'm totally with you OP, my dad died when I was 14 and my mum has advanced dementia now. When I see women my age and kids out with their parents/grandparents it makes me angry! Also seeing friends/acquaintances of my mum having a lovely time out and about gives me the rage too. I know it's irrational and helps no one but I can't help it!!

So sorry OP, bereavement is so hard to deal with, and anger is a recognised part of it.