Remembering every morning

[grecianurn82]

The morning time is so hard. Those couple of seconds when you wake before you remember. Then it hits you all over again. The pain is as bad as when I first heard. When does that stop?

I've just read your other post OP, I'm so sorry. How are the kids doing? It's still very early days.

Do you have support around you? Xxx

The kids are ok, they really don't understand at all what has happened so they're not upset. My friend and her daughter have come to stay which is lovely. The nights and mornings are just so hard.

I don’t know how long it takes but it will stop one day.

I remember it so vividly, I'm sorry you're going through it!

I can't honestly say how long it takes for that to stop, a while, but eventually it does. Then I was sad I didn't even get those few seconds. But it was good not to have that 'sudden realisation' every morning.

Big hugs!!

The hurt doesn't stop, but you do slowly start to live alongside the grief, then the grief learns to live alongside you, until it becomes just living. Then the totally gripped by grief becomes days/hours/moments.

It won't be how it is now forever, I promise

Just get through.
So sorry you have to go through this. There’s nothing that helps except time really. It’s shit. Ride it out until their memory becomes the same as they mean.to you now.