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Loved and left behind for 2022

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Helenbackagain3 · 01/01/2022 20:32

Just a shout out to anyone that is beginning 2022 without a loved one. I lost my son 2 months ago, and I think it’s finally hit me. So sad to leave 2021 knowing that it was his final year.

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EmeraldDaisy · 01/01/2022 23:09

Thank you @Helenbackagain3, how kind. The start of a new year does feel extra hard.

So sorry to hear about the loss of your son.

Best wishes too to everyone who finds themselves on this board.

clareth · 01/01/2022 23:26

I’m so sorry that you lost your son.
Yes the start of a New Year is hard and also Christmas. Always makes you realise that that person is missing and much missed.
FlowersSending you love

Helenbackagain3 · 02/01/2022 19:42

Thank you all. X

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lndnbrdge91 · 02/01/2022 19:45

To anyone struggling who has lost a loved one, sending love

demolitionduo · 03/01/2022 00:10

I lost my Dad to Covid in February. I have battled on sorting his house and probate alongside dealing with my own chronic illness. I thought I was coping until NYE and then it hit me.
It was the first time I cried since finding out he had covid, knowing it would take him. And now I can't stop crying.

Grief is so unpredictable, so I'm sending love and light to all of you feeling similarly.

Munchies123 · 04/01/2022 14:25

I'm so sorry for your losses. Thankyou for this thread. I lost my mum to cancer in Aug 2021. I kept stupidly busy through Christmas but NYE was tough. Love and strength to you all x

AlDanvers · 06/01/2022 20:20

I am so sorry for everyone's losses.

Mum died on the 2nd December. The funeral was 30th December. New years eve was pretty awful. The count down to midnight brought on a panic attack. I wanted it stop. It hit me that Mum will never exist in 2022. She never gets to see another year.

I am distecting myself with frivolous things, the kids and work. But I have no idea how to live like this.

I didn't realise Bereavement would make me so full of fear.

Clueless2000 · 10/01/2022 00:34

@AlDanvers oh goodness, I feel like that too - fearful - perhaps not in the same way as you, I’m not sure. I lost someone suddenly and in tragic circumstances and now I feel afraid as it has really hit home that you can lose anyone, at any time, without warning.

AlDanvers · 10/01/2022 05:41

@Clueless2000 I am sorry for your loss.

Yes that fear is part of it. Realising my dad, partner etc could be fine then gone. It could happen to me and my poor kids would be left like I am now.

But my fear is mainly how to live my life without someone who was always there. I never lived life without mum. I moved around, but she was always on the phone. I am scared that i don't think I can't do it.

Lots of fear. But definitely the fear this could and will happen again. I will, again, lose someone I love.

Clueless2000 · 10/01/2022 07:21

Oh @AlDanvers I’m so sorry you’ve lost your lovely mum. And I get how you feel - It’s a horrible feeling isn’t it. Like your bubble has been burst in the most awful way. I hope you can find a way through it. Xx

flumposie · 10/01/2022 21:46

@AlDanvers sorry for your loss. My mother in law died in October unexpectedly. I cried on New Year's Eve as I too realised she would never exist in 2022.

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