Disturbing dreams **TW**

[Frolicinameadow]

Close relative died suddenly and unexpectedly about a month ago. I’ve since been having constant nightly dreams where I see them laying cold and trapped in the grave. I wake up hearing them saying they’re cold and lonely.
A few times the dreams have been so real I’ve woken up expecting to find my hands covered in muck from trying to dig them up as I had been in my dream.
Is this normal? Does it go away?

Hi @Frolicinameadow
I don't know how common it is but I know I've been having similarly disturbing dreams recently too. My mum died pretty unexpectedly in September, and the distressing dreams went on until November. Not quite the same as yours but along the same lines. Really upsetting isn't it!

They have definitely eased off for me this month but it wouldn't surprise me to have another at some point. It's just such a huge thing for our systems to cope with.

So sorry to read you're going through this.

My mother died when I was 9 and I remember having very similar dreams to this then, it lasted for a month or two from what I remember.
I'm so sorry for your loss💐

I had them after losing DD they didn’t last long, I think it was part of the shock and grief at first, once day to day life started to get easier so to did the dreams.

Would it help to write them down and sort of rewrite the ending?

I’m so sorry for the loss you have each experienced.
It is a very difficult time and the dreams don’t help.
I’ll try writing them down and see if it helps xx

I'm so sorry. When my flatmate died in a car accident I dreamt about him a lot. In every dream he was angry at me for leaving him at the roadside. It was really upsetting but I guess it was just my brain trying to process the loss. I expect they will eventually stop being so frequent and finally stop.

I'm sorry for your loss OP. When my little brother died, for a while I had a strong feeling that it was my responsibility to go and find him, that he was terrified in some other dimension somewhere. It passed in time. Oddly enough I've never dreamed of him - I'd love to.