I dont know how I feel, but I'm not happy!

[LowFat]

Just heard my cousin has had a baby on the same day as was my mum's b'day.

Mum died 3 years ago come March 08.

My son was born last year the day before mums birthday, and although I would have loved to have had him on the same day, I did'nt think too much on it, until now

I cant help feeling that my son should have been born on mums birthday not hers - which is not like me to feel that way.

No one in my family has told me about the birth, I got it in a generic e-mail announcing the arrival.

I feel really isolated by my family, have they not thought it matters to me, or have they thought it does and dont know how to talk to me?? My dad died when I was little and I am an only child so I have no one to share my feelings with. I have'nt even told DH about the e-mail as it will set me off and he'll probably not understand why it has got to me.

I just need to move on from this awful feeling.

Maybe they didnt know 'how' to say it to you knowing how upset you would be?, i think you are obviously very upset at the minute, but nothing can stop a baby coming, so dont be too hard on them and im sorry about your loss, its obviously very much upsetting for you to think about your mum, maybe you could talk to someone in your family about how youre feeling?

To some people birthdays and anniversaries are very important (they are to me) and to others they are not, like my brother.
My mum died just after midnight the day after my brother's birthday, I remembered when it was the ten year anniversary, but he didn't. I remember all birthdays and obviously so do you, especially so close to Christmas, but not everyone does...
What I'm trying to say is: did your cousin know when it was your mum's birthday? Or did it not occur to her at all that you might be upset about getting a generic e.mail just like the rest of the world?

I know my cousins was a generic e-mail as she rightly so is very proud of her bouncing baby. Btu the rest of my family know my mum's b'day because some of them have sent me cards and flowers in the past.

But still no one has called to see if I have heard the news. I am probably being a bit over sensative I suppose.

I imagine your cousin has got so caught up n the excitement of their baby as have the rest of the family that they either havent made the link or just dont know what to say. I think you are being a bit over sensitive but understandbly so.