A present for the recently bereaved

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I hope this is okay to post here...

Someone very dear to me has recently lost their husband and is facing the first Christmas without him... I'd like to give her something comforting and special... any advice would be most welcome.

Could you do a voucher for afternoon tea for you both? Give the gift of your time x

Perhaps a special Xmas bauble that she could put up every year to remember him by?

Agree with the gift of time. When my best friend died, her husband most appreciated someone just being available on the end of the phone for him to laugh, cry and reminisce with.

In terms of a gift, perhaps something just for her, rather than something to remember her husband by (that might be something she'd want to choose herself). How about something which offers physical comfort - a cashmere wrap, a beautifully soft throw maybe? Something to wrap up in when she's feeling sad.

What is your budget? A voucher to get a memory bear/blanket. Or a voucher for an ashes ring.

A voucher for mix tiles to get photos of her hubby.

A photo book from Facebook of his account. X

When my husband died I was touched to receive thoughtful gifts for my use: nice perfume, body lotions, even a beach bag and sarong for holidays. Nothing death related. It was good to be thought of as a person in my own right, and not defined by my loss. Everyone is different though and you know your friend.

Thank you all for responding- have lots of good ideas here

Not flowers. I was grateful t9 received them but I got overwhelmed with flowers after my DH died and managing them became a bit of a chore. The nicest things we received were things like a basket of fruit, or friends turning up with homemade cakes. I like some of the caring ideas like cashmere wraps, afternoon tea etc. Maybe a nice scented candle too if she likes them.

Need to change my username as it refers to my ex husband not my boyfriend
Since my boyfriend passed suddenly a month ago I've received a handmade silver bracelet with his initial on it from my sis who's living across the world, beautiful bunch of cottage flowers, and a care package with a perfume set & a gigantic galaxy bar, all bring me comfort.

I've purchased a handmade ceramic tree decoration with his name & date of passing on it, all of these items have brought me comfort but it's the people who take time out of their day to ask how I am feeling and talk about him that bring the most comfort