My brother has just died from cancer, I feel bad telling my colleague/friend at work who also has terminal cancer.

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My friend at work was told in June that he had 12 months to live and when I spoke to him I told him that my brother had cancer but that he (my brother) hadn't been given a terminal prognosis.
Actually my brother had been given a terminal prognosis but he didn't want to tell me and other people for good reasons.
I found out the truth in August when I visited him and his condition deteriorated rapidly soon after and he passed away at the beginning of November.
That was terribly upsetting for everyone especially his family.
I'm now thinking that when/if I tell this news to my friend at work that he will be upset but I guess I can't lie.
We're not particularly close but I was trying to chat to him regularly to offer him as much support as possible.
I kinda regret mentioning my brother now...
Should I tell my friend that my brother has died?

I'm not sure actually whether you should. I'm really sorry you lost your brother. It must be terrible for you and your family. I suppose the only thing I would do if he asked is to stress the differences between your brother's illness and his own. I hope your brother's death was peaceful and pain-free.

It was peaceful and pain-free.
Thank you.

I'm sorry you lost your brother. I hope you're bearing up as well as you can at the moment.
I think I wouldn't tell your friend unless he asks. It's possible if you mention it to other people that it might get round to him anyway, but I wouldn’t be the one to raise it. He can ask if he does want to talk about cancer with someone who gets it.

If he asks.

I would just tell him. It will be on his mind anyway and I think he will manage this news better than you think.

Sorry about your brother.

I have cancer atm either grade 3 or grade 4, find out soon which, and I would be fine with being told. I would rather be told than find out from others. I find it strange when people say things that imply no-one dies from cancer these days and I actually find that harder than people who are more realistic.

People do deal with things differently though and if he is someone who believes he will live until old age despite what doctors are saying I would maybe not mention it. But if he accepts the prognosis then I think it will be fine but he may not be strong enough to offer you a lot of emotional support.

I've lived through a cancer diagnosis , and honestly you don't take it hard when you hear bad news, it's no different from if you were healthy. Your friend is living his journey - hearing about someone else won't make him feel worse. I"m sorry for your loss OP.