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Being an expat/immigrant

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PermanentLockdown · 19/11/2021 09:55

Is there anyone else here who is/has struggled with losing someone and grieving while also being an expat/immigrant?

I'm finding it really hard. I lost my gran but the worst part is the whole family is scattered in different countries. Losing her is intensifying my homesickness for England. I feel angry and sad that I don't have what my partner has with family all so close by they can comfort one another, just having everyday physical presence. I feel like with her death another tie to my homeland is severed. I cant describe it but like her and a sense of place are all mixed into one. It makes me feel like what is it for - why did we all go our separate ways and go seeking new places and things when in the final moments and in death we are alone. Was it all worth it?

I grew up in lots of different countries and I already felt rootless before, she was like a little root that kept me tied to a place and time at least. Now I'm just struggling with a feeling if wanting to pack my whole life in and move back to her village in england and just live a simple local life.

Just wondering if anyone else feels this way.

OP posts:
Tickly · 04/12/2021 22:08

@PermanentLockdown I'm really sorry you feel like this. DH is from overseas and after we lost our daughter he has struggled with not being near his family. The urge to go "home" is definitely there, omg with the urge to run away.
I don't have any practical solutions for you but didn't want to scroll past.
A good friend or two can make a big difference would be all I can say. Mine are scattered around the world and I have leaned on them to support both of us.

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