Bath after ERPC

[expatinscotland]

do you really need to wait a fortnight if you have very light bleeding?

i want nothing more than to soak in a rose-scented bath with my spa lights and pretend and listen to the rain on the window.

i can't see how a plain water bath could do you any harm. with some scented candles.

i have these cool battery-powered lights with suckers that can go underwater or float in the bath that i got for my birthday earlier this year, and a bunch of those battery-powered tealights to put round.

and some lovely bath oil to relax me.

just seems more inviting than a hot water bottle.

I don't seem to recall waiting that long. Think I'd be prepared to risk a plain water one myself.

it sounds lovely but i think you should give the oil in the bath a miss. have you got an oil burner or similar for the full bliss effect?

I would give the bath oil a miss for now though, sorry.

damn.

it's not the same when it's just water.

hmm.

i think i'll just have to skip it till i can do the full on.

Why can't you have a bath? I've not heard that before and I've had several m/cs.

i can't see why you should wait, or wait to use the bath oil.... enjoy i say!!!

High risk of infection juule.

I was bathing within days of both m/c and birth.

Full on lush bath bombs after m/c to make me feel better.

Have you been told not to? Hope you can relax in a nice soak soon!

I thought the no-no was to not use tampons or have sex. I was never told not to have a bath.
In fact, thinking about it, I was having baths a couple of days after giving birth.
Also, oils such as lavender are anti-bacterial so I can't see that would be a problem.

I went ahead and had one.

Yes, apparently tampons are no-no's, but I used my mooncup anyway, because pads give me thrush. They really do. They cause no end of irritation and I hate them.

And the no sex thing?

Well, bollocks to that, too.

high risk of infection.. erm how exactly????

a bath and good personal hygene will reduce the risk of infection

in fact, where i work we advise you bath daily!!!

good for you expat! i hope you enjoyed it and it relaxed you! (although try to reconsider the sex thing till the bleeding has stopped!!!)

Good to hear you sounding more yourself again expat.

I've been known to put a good face on things, Sleigh .

Wee things, though, like a lovely bath, like combing out DD1's long hair like a mantle about her shoulders, like DD2 leaning in saying 'mmm' for a kiss, etc. help a lot.

Expat, you truly are some woman. I am in awe.

I do feel so guilty, sometimes, grieving for the lost child, when already I have been blessed with so much.

But hey, it's a warm bath, not a needle full of smack!

And a lovely Weleda rose oil bath, no less, THANKS, BEROLINA!

The bathroom smelled divine afterwards!

Oh, expat, please don't feel guilty for your grief. Losing a baby, no matter when it happens, is extraordinarily sad. I have very mixed feelings sometimes - if my first baby had lived, I'd never have LittleHab, and I would not wish her away for the world, and yet I still wish P was with us. It's all so complicated, and the only thing I think I've really learned is to accept whatever you're feeling at any given time.

Glad it was a lovely bath. Good for the soul.

Aww expat I know what you mean, when I was pregnant with number 3 I felt like I was pushing my luck wanting a third when I already had 2 beautiful DDs like I was being greedy.

But then I thought sod it I only have one life I am going to be greedy I WANT another one.

You go ahead and grieve.

And have a bath, sounds divine btw

I feel guilty, too, because my mum and sister, they thankfully never had to go there, so they don't get it. But my poor mother feels so bad about that! So I try to keep a good lid on it, but I don't sleep well.

I've always had insomnia, but it's 3AM before I can get there now, and then I'm up early doors.

Even the night I had it, god, I just wanted to run the hell away. That's always been my MO: the shit's hitting the fan, time to blow this firetrap!

But at least now we're in this house and not that cramped flat it's easier to get some space deep in the night.

Thank heaven for small mercies!

Thank you, kitty!

I know how hard it was on you, when you had your loss.

I'm so glad you are having a good pregnancy now!

Wish it was going well expat - had bleeding on Tuesday, red with a few clots, phoned EPAS they referred me to maternity ward who told me EPAS had no scanning appointments and as it had changed to brown blood it wasn't urgent. If it changed to red or I had pain come back! Wednesday I saw GP he said the same thing, had last little bit of brown gunk Thursday morning nothing since then so am in ilmbo land not knowing if this baby is OK. Am actually thinking of going to the Nuffield this week for a scan

Another example of the wonderful NHS in Scotland.

I know the black dog comes barking around your heels as well, hope you can shoo the ugly mutt away

Oh, kitty, how are you today?

I really liked the doc I had at Nuffield if you want a referral.

Hope it all goes well!

thanks expat I don't know what to do had 3 days of no bleeding now, am going to phone MWs direct tomorrow and ask for advice, DP has said if I want a scan go get one but he is saying I will have one in another weeks time anyway lets just go on blind faith for a bit.