Brothers suicide two years ago

[Nadia86]

My little brother died two years ago . I tried to keep myself busy all day but now the evening is here I am struggling. I have friends ,family,partner yet today I just want to be alone. Thinking of my little brother, he was only 25 ,my favourite person in the whole world. Just missing him. I know he is happier wherever he is now but I really really miss him.

I’m so sorry. That must be very hard x

I'm so sorry for your loss. I.always try to take comfort that they're no longer in pain. Everyone is probably trying to keep you busy with the best?intentions. It is ok to say you want to take time to remember him, you might be surprised to know they want to do that too?

So sorry for your loss x

Would you like to tell us anything about your lovely brother?

I hope you are able to do something to care for yourself tonight x

Hi Nadia,

Big hugs.

I lost my nephew is suicide nearly two years ago too. He would have been 16 tomorrow. I'm struggling too.

Have you had counselling? I know it's been so hard with lockdown I haven't yet, but know I need some. I hear suicide.co.uk is good.

Also have a look at Quinn's retreat. Holiday for people like us. Doesn't matter how fresh the loss is. It's been wonderful to get away and the caravan is full of resources and books about suicide loss.

If I can help any other way please reach out xx

Thank you all. He was kind and generous. He struggled with the world his issues were severe mental health,possibly bipolar etc. He bought his first flat just months before I thought he would pull through . Didnt drink or take drugs. He was due to see a psychiatrist that week and saw his consuellor two days before. The night before ,we had dinner and chatted and I was due to see him on Friday again. Thursday he was gone.... its just hard. I am mostly ok just today has been extra difficult.

I'm so very sorry for your loss. My little sister passed away at 20 yo almost 7 years ago and I hate to say the cliché, but it does get easier. You'll learn to live with that hole as part of you. No denying there are shit days, there always will be, but instead of smacking the wind right out of you, you might just need a quick second to catch your breath. Sending you love!

@Saxineno Thank you. I have had some group therapy. I live with it I have a good life. It does get easier but I have been on edge since 1st of Nov knowing today was coming. Its like my whole body knows today is the day and it just colapsed. I will wake up tomorrow and be my usual self as much as I can. Just trying yo get through today.

@sborber Thank you I know you are right.

So sorry x
At least he has peace now.

What will help you today?

Can you write him a letter? Light a candle for him? Play some music you both loved? Eat a snack you both enjoyed?

Or if these are too raw, what can you do just for you that is gentle and nurturing?

@HereticFanjo Thank you.I was looking through our photos and remembering all the funny tuings he said or did. And our holiday to Portugal for his 16th. And lots of other things. I think today I just need to let myself be sad.

@GoodnightGrandma that is very important to me. I remember how much he struggled sometimes and I am glad he does not have to feel those awful feelings anymore.

[quote Nadia86]@HereticFanjo Thank you.I was looking through our photos and remembering all the funny tuings he said or did. And our holiday to Portugal for his 16th. And lots of other things. I think today I just need to let myself be sad.[/quote]
Yes Thinking about you 🤗

So sorry for your loss. You are perfectly entitled to feel sad. And the other comments re ‘what’ you can do are lovely. We can never answer the question ‘why’, it is too complex. But thinking about what we can do to move forwards and remember them may help. Xx