Mums first birthday

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It's 13 weeks since my mum passed it's her birthday next week

I just don't how I've managed to go this long without seeing her and that I'm still here and breathing (not suicidal) I just mean I don't know how I've survived without my mum she was my person, my best friend! We were like the same person. I seen her everyday!

What do i do on her birthday?

Hi ,
I lost my mum almost six months ago and I totally hear you

Hi OP
So very sorry for your loss. I lost my Dad 13 years ago, he raised me on his own so we were extremely close, his death absolutely floored me.
You do whatever you feel like doing, did you have a special place you went together? Does your mum have a resting place you can visit to maybe light a candle, lay some flowers, just spend some time with her?
It is so very hard, just try and go with it, cry if you wish, laugh at something she did that made you smile, don't feel guilty for laughing or crying, doing something or nothing at all, your mum knows you love her.
Take care OP, look after yourself, one day at a time.

When I lost my dd (6 years ago) the FIRST anniversaries, were really difficult. I went to the cemetery and then home to my bed. In the following years, we're a bit easier. I always go to the cemetery and light a candle in the house every year.
When my mum died (4 years ago) I did try to make an effort to do something nice to remember her on her birthday, anniversary. I ordered lovely flowers went to the cemetery with my siblings then we went out for lunch and had a couple of whiskies to toast her.

It's still very early days for you. If you don't feel like doing anything that's ok.
Take care of yourself.

I'm so sorry @forgotpassword, I buy a candle for my mum each year and dedicate it to her. I light it on her birthday and wish her a happy birthday. It's hard, it's 4 years for me and even though I wanted to punch people who told me it gets easier that sense of deep sadness and the rawness is less than it was.

Your lovely mums birthday is so soon after her passing so be gentle with yourself and take each moment as it comes.