Dad died and never met his grandson

[Aarti96]

My dad passed away 3 months ago, and not a day goes by where I don’t miss him. I gave birth 8 weeks ago to a beautiful baby boy and I feel absolutely heartbroken that he can’t be here to see his grandchild.

Every little milestone my DS hits is clouded with grief, as all I can think is ‘I wish my dad could see this’. I know he would’ve been the most amazing grandad. He was utterly selfless, kind and giving.

He suddenly developed a brain tumour last year and battled it for 12 months. He was only 53. Me and my mum were his sole carers, our whole lives stopped for a year to look after him and I feel privileged to have been able to spend every single day with him.

I was lucky enough to be able to tell him I was pregnant with his grandson before his memory faded. I remember the tears of joy he cried on that day. He saw the scan pictures and we recorded DS’s heart beat for him to listen to. He was so excited and I hoped that he would live to meet the baby, but unfortunately it didn’t go that way.

I’m enjoying every second being a mum to my gorgeous boy but it’s just hard without my dad…just wanted to vent really as I’m having a down day today.

So sorry for your loss- sending love.
I can relate to your struggles, as my dad died unexpectedly in hospital one week ago today, exactly 3 weeks after my 2nd daughter was born at the same hospital.
He had been ill for some some but sadly due to it being sudden and covid rules, we never got to say any sort of goodbye.
It's been a surreal rollercoaster these past few weeks.Sadly he never got to meet his new granddaughter face to face (he was due to come home for palliative care the day he died) although he did at least get to know that she had arrived and see her via video call briefly the day she was born (which was the last time we spoke to him)

It's really tough knowing all that they've missed out on isn't it...i think all we can do is try to keep their memories alive in various ways, so our little ones can have some sort of connection to them.I am lucky in that DD is 4.5 so they had afew years together, he got to be a grandad to her and she will be able to remember him.

My dad enjoyed Xmas so we are going to make it a tradition to visit his grave every Xmas and place a Xmas card & gift there for him...maybe finding a comforting ritual or starting a new tradition to share with your children might help you too xxx

@Aarti96 your dad sounds like a lovely man how unfair is this world for so many, I can relate to you. My mum died suddenly last April from a bleed on the brain she was totally fine texting me then spent all night fighting for her life and 12 hours later was dead. I'll never forget that phone cal off my sister I dropped to the floor 33 weeks pregnant and threw up all over the place. She was so much more than a mum to me literally my best friend in the world we had so much fun she was only 63 and me 27 I suddenly felt like a child even though I was 6 weeks away from having my own I just couldn't believe I would never see her again, I still can't. 11 days ago I had my second daughter and the baby blues / grief is hitting HARD at the reality I have another beautiful daughter who will never know this powerhouse of a woman who should of been their grandma for decades to come.
I have no advise other than solidarity