Ashes

[TeaAndToastNameChange]

Just collected my mum's ashes. It was way harder than I thought it would be and I've been knocked for six by it. Can't get my head around that she's now just sand in a box. She was so full of life. It's too weird. I'm a mess!

@TeaAndToastNameChange Bless you . Just don't worry about it too much at the moment . It will take you a while to decide what you want to do with the ashes. All thoughts to you and your mother . My DH took a while with his mother and father's ashes but in the end he and his siblings agreed what to do. Just take time to come to terms with this . My thoughts are with you .

@TeaAndToastNameChange - one more thing which you may find trite but someone said it to me - you die twice - once when you actually die and once when people forget you - Both of DH's parents have died - we talk about them a lot - it feels like they are somewhat here . That won't work in the early days I am sure - but it works for Dh & DGCs x

It's so hard isn't it, another unwelcome knock on this painful road that seems like it can't be real. It's huge.
You're in my thoughts

Thank you

My beloved dad died very suddenly a month ago. He was cremated and we buried his ashes in Wednesday. I sat with the box on my knee for a while first. I found it so hard to know my big, vibrant, loving, full of life dad was now nothing more than just a box of dust that fitted on my lap. It was so so upsetting. It’s something I am really really struggling to come to terms with.