Please don't read if this upsets you, I'm sorry if it's insensitive. I don't know where else to post.
Mil is dying in hospital. Treatment and liquids were withdrawn on Sunday morning.
We went to see her on Sunday and she was just lying in bed, very peaceful, just like she's sleeping. But I know she's heavily sedated.
We went in on Tuesday evening, so 3 full days after treatment stopped on Sunday morning.
She just looked the same. I had thought she might look a bit worse, a bit greyer, a bit more sunken and dehydrated. But she just looked exactly the same. Hands still nice and warm, still a healthy looking colour, still breathing regularly.
What can we expect in the next few days? I've tried to ask the staff but they have been spectacularly unhelpful. I know they're busy. I asked if there was anyone who had 5 minutes to chat to our kids and answer some of their questions but they said no-one was trained in that sort of thing. She's just in a hospital admissions ward, not anywhere specialist.
So we're feeling a bit abandoned tbh. It's very strange.
We had prepared the kids as best we could for Sunday maybe being the last time they saw her, then they were able to see her again last night, I thought maybe after that she might look more upsetting and they shouldn't see her again, but last night she looked fine so maybe they could go again?
I can't square the fact that she's dying any day now with her looking so "healthy". I feel like we're putting the kids through the wringer every time we talk about it. That's 3 times now on the advice of the medical staff we've told them granny will die soon and she's still here. I guess we just stop saying that and say something a bit more vague.
I just don't understand.
Kids are 15, 13 and 10. 13 yr old doesn't want to see her or talk about it, the other 2 want to know every detail and see her every day.