My friend died and I'm just lost

[Tryingthisonefornow]

My friend died this week under awful circumstances. I'm just lost and don't know how I'll ever get over this. How do I speak to his wife? What can I do? I know I cannot take away her pain. I don't even really know what I'm looking for here. I'm just lost.

I'm so sorry. No advice to offer but I'm sending you lots of love. What a terribly sad thing.

I’m so sorry. It’s a big shock so you must be kind to yourself. Take each day, or each hour if you need to, as it comes. It will take some time to process it.

Take your cues from his wife. Maybe tell her what you loved about having him as a friend. Just let her know you are there.

For yourself, are there mutual friends you can talk to who will be feeling the same as you? Take comfort in each other if you can.

I had a friend die under terrible circumstances a decade ago OP. I know your pain in some way or another.

A simple compassionate message of support for his wife would be the first port of call I'd think. Wil she need any practical support or will she get that from elsewhere? Sorry for your loss.

Thank you all.
We do share mutual friends and I've spent today with them and it did help.
I just can't make myself sleep. I'm exhausted, my eyes are so puffy I can barely see but if I sleep I have to wake up and remember this again.
He was truly wonderful the kindest and funniest person and in the click of a finger he is gone.

Hope you managed to get some sleep @Tryingthisonefornow x