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Traumatised by watching my mother die.

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Iamacatslave · 18/09/2021 20:55

I watched my mother die on Tuesday, (she was end of life care) and I really do feel traumatised by the experience. Don’t get me wrong, I wanted to be with her when she died, I just wasn’t prepared for how truly awful it was. My GP has kindly prescribed me a few days sleeping tablets as I haven’t slept since Monday. Any words of advice as to how I navigate my way through these dark days.

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VexedofVirginiaWater · 19/09/2021 22:12

I am so sorry for you OP, it must have been dreadful - but at least you were there and she will have been comforted by that at some level I'm sure.

My parents both died last year within a month of each other in the first Covid wave when you could only visit for one hour when they were at end of life. I wasn't there for either of their deaths and it haunts me that they died without family and any comfort we could have provided, no matter how little.

Iamacatslave · 19/09/2021 22:25

Thank you for all your kind words. I’ve been kept very busy with organising mum’s funeral which is on Wednesday. I’m just taking one day at a time.

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Endpress · 19/09/2021 22:51

The memory does fade. It’s really tough initially though. So few people you can tell which makes it harder. X

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