I have not got an executive for my will.

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I’ve got 2 Sons that don’t get on.
I need someone to execute my will.
I don’t want to leave a mess.
What’s my options.
My friends would not want the responsibility.

A solicitor, they would be paid from the estate.

You could also choose another family member or friend who is able to be impartial and has some knowledge of executing a will. Leave them a bequest in your estate to compensate.

Useful to also name a backup in your will in case the first is unable to act.

A family friend enlisted someone she trusted (another friend) to be an executive. The executive got some money for their trouble.
If your sons don’t get on, are you leaving everything equally, then your will need to specify everything as 50/50.

I am in this situation as executor with my brother who has behaved diabolically over the whole process (selling our mothers belongings for cash without notifying me and including things that I expressly - and in writing- wanted etc). From that situation, I say appoint a solicitor. If there is enough cash to squabble over, or a property where decisions would need to be made about offers to accept or not - even estate agent to appoint - pay for someone to remove the source of conflict from them.

Use a solicitor. It is going to be expensive but worth it

We've got a solicitor to act as executor in the event of the death of the surviving spouse. It will be done cleanly and professionally as just another job in the in-tray which they will get paid for.

It gets my sibling out of the equation as they've got form for dishonesty regarding family money. I am concerned that my sibling will favour their children over the children of my SIL despite our will stating that our estate is to be divided equally between all nieces/nephews.

I'm also concerned that my sibling will not have the attention span to administer it properly once they've made sure their kids have got a bigger share i.e. lie about the value of our estate. Also, converting the money to an overseas currency for the other beneficiaries will go into the, 'too hard' basket and stay there.

It also gets SIL out from an obligation which is further complicated by her living overseas.

If you have a solicitor be the executor then expect a hefty bill. They charge around £200 plus vat p/h and sometimes add on a percentage of the total estate too.

That's ok. The surviving spouses' estate will pay for it. It will ensure that the will is administered correctly.

It will also give my narcissistic sibling another opportunity to have a picture of innocence, butter wouldn't melt in their mouth expression on their face. With a bit of, 'I'm so hurt' thrown in for the attendant audience.