Second missed m/c

[Verso]

Don't know what to say really. Just back from EPU and it looks as though my baby died between the last scan two weeks ago and today. No bleeding, cramps or other symptoms, nothing. I still feel very pregnant - just like last time. Now waiting for D&C on Friday (bed space permitting). I feel very strange and spaced-out. Can't quite believe it's happened again.

Only good(?) thing is that I'm at a different hospital to last time and instead of waiting for three m/cs in a row before investigating, they refer you to a consultant after two. Apparently there are tests they can do (took loads of blood this am) and ways they can manage a further pg which can help. Anyone with any experience of this?

Right now though I don't know whether I'll be able to try again. It's very hard.

that's so sad Verso. How many weeks are you?

I hope the d&c is ok and that you get the help you need.

I am so sorry Verso, was on July thread and suffering mc as well lots of hugs to you.
that waiting for bed thing is awful, had that last time, truly awful, so sorry

Thanks for the very quick reply, belgo. I thought I was 9w6d but the baby was measuring around 8wks. At least it's not quite as bad as last time - I found out last time at 12wks, at the nuchal fold scan - with no prior warning at all. This time I was more cautious. But having said that, having seen a HB at 7w5d things seemed to be looking more optimistic. Looks like the baby died shortly after the positive scan.

I guess you never know.

Oh sfxmum thanks for finding me. Very kind when you're going through similar. Life can be so cruel sometimes, can't it?

verso if/ when you feel like it you might want to join the 'MC avengers in big pants thread' over in conception.
quite supportive lot{hug}life is indeed poop sometimes

So sorry verso. It's a heartbreaking thing to happen once, let alone twice. Am thinking of you x

Verso, I'm so sorry - how absolutely heartbreaking for you.

I had a m/c in August, fell pg again after 1 cycle, and had another m/c 3 weeks ago. (After 2nd m/c I also opted for an ERPC - definitely the right decision for me.)

I know how truly devasting this is.

This happened to me once and I was devastated, so I can only imagine what you must be going through. I really hope you are ok and send you lots of love.

hello Verso

so sorry for your losses, this happened to me twice too, it was and still can be hard. Just feels like a real stab in the heart to have it back to back. I found it almost un real IYKWIM it's great to have blood taken and they can rule out some big causes from that.

I did try again and had a ds, and i hug him that much tighter, i had another m m/c after him and then took asprin, and had another ds.

The support threads are great here.

SFX- I'm so sorry hun, I'll try and find you somewhere and talk more, hope you are holding up.

hi Uki thanks am on FB if you are can find you
Trib knows because we have kept in touch

So sorry for your loss Verso but please don't give up. I know how dispiriting it can be - I had my third consecutive mc in June, after a totally trouble-free pregnancy with my dd.

I had all the blood tests and they revealed nothing. In a way this has been worse as I have no reason for what happened and no idea what to do. I would encourage you to go ahead though, but be warned that they only reveal conditions that affect pregnancy in a samll percentage of cases.

I have ended up doing a lot of research - some prompted by my sister who is a bit of a health freak - into nutritional and lifestyle changes that are alleged to help with fertility. I'm not sure I buy into the theory behind all of them, but I did find that doing something postive made me feel happier and more in control. Unlike dealing with doctors, who only tell me there's nothing they can do. I understand why that's the case, but it doesn't make it any easier to hear.

I really hope you find a way through this - I believe we'll make it!