My first love died

[noblegreenk]

I found out today that my first loved died suddenly a few weeks ago. He was only 40. We had an on/off relationship as teenagers and rekindled it briefly about 9yrs ago but it ended when I met my husband. I'm ever so upset about it. I don't know how to process it and don't have anyone to talk to. I wasn't in love with him anymore but I still cared about him deeply.

so sorry to hear, it's heartbreaking for you.
not being in love is irrelevant, you loved him & cared for him and he will always be a part if who you were & who you are.
Sending you huge hugs

*of who you are
not if

would writing a letter to him help process your feelings & thoughts? to say goodbye?

I feel for you. My university boyfriend died a few years ago in his early 40s. I hadn’t seen him in 20 years but I was incredibly upset and felt sort of embarrassed about that, so couldn’t really talk to anyone about it.

I began to unpick why it had affected me so much and that was fairly useful reflection.

I'm so sorry. Be well. I'm sure he loved you. Don't be embarrassed. Mine didn't die but that might have been closure more than him not being interested in seeing me. Not being mean but it all is hurtful.
Hugs and condolences

X

I’m so sorry. My childhood sweetheart took his own life when we were in our 20’s. Our families were still very close. In fact his mother was visiting us when the police came to tell her. I’ve never gotten over it, I still dream about him regularly.

I'm so sorry to hear this. My ex died 9 days after I got married. He overdosed. I was literally heartbroken. It felt horrible. His son was only 17 so I paid for the funeral and arranged it etc. I still see his family all the time. They are my family now. Don't feel bad for grieving for him. It will get better x