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My son died in prison

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Thehazelnut · 02/08/2021 21:19

Has anyone else had this experience? My son was 25 and died in HMP Exeter two years ago…the inquest hasn’t happened yet, I just wanted to know if anyone has gone through/is going through the same experience as me?

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EspressoDoubleShot · 02/08/2021 21:27

Wanted to acknowledge your post and your loss, that’s really tough to endure as a parent. I have no personal experience of this, I do have work experience of it. Has anyone kept you updated or explained the processes and inquest?

lljkk · 02/08/2021 21:29

Flowers for your loss.

cheesepizza22 · 02/08/2021 21:30

Firstly, I'm so sorry for your loss. Maybe we can ask admin to move your thread so you get more support?

IHateCoronavirus · 02/08/2021 21:37

Ah op I’m so sorry for your loss. I lost a DD but not under those circumstances. I hope you get the answers that you need, and I hope that you are able to find snippets of peace in your heart. Sending you a hug Flowers

BalladOfBarryAndFreda · 02/08/2021 21:40

I’m so sorry for your loss. From what I understand, HMP Exeter has an unusually high number of deaths. I hope you get the answers you are owed and are being supported Flowers

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HebeMumsnet · 02/08/2021 21:41

Hi OP,

We're so sorry for your loss. We think you might have posted here by mistake though and might get more relevant replies elsewhere. We'll move this over to our bereavment topic but if you'd prefer it to be in Legal Matters or just Chat, even, if you wanted to post somewhere with high traffic, just drop us a line by hitting the report button above one of your posts and let us know.

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EspressoDoubleShot · 02/08/2021 21:44

Try the POPS website and PACT too

Teaandakitkat · 02/08/2021 21:48

I'm sorry for your loss op, and in such circumstances. You must have felt so very shocked and helpless. I hope you get the answers you and your son deserve. 2 years is way too long to wait.

LoveFall · 02/08/2021 21:51

I am so very sorry for your loss, and in such circumstances. I hope you get some closure soon.

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Thehazelnut · 02/08/2021 21:54

Closure, blimey, if only!!! The things my dreams are made of!!!

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Thehazelnut · 02/08/2021 21:55

I’ve got at least another year of the inquest process, really tough on all of us

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Thehazelnut · 02/08/2021 21:57

Thank you xx

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SerenShine · 02/08/2021 21:57

I'm sorry, I haven't been through this but I just wanted to send you a hug.

Lougle · 02/08/2021 21:57

I'm so sorry. That must be so hard to know that he died in prison. Do you want to tell us about him? I met quite a few prisoners when I worked as a nurse. They all had a story and and their reason for being in prison was often just a small part of who they were.

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Thehazelnut · 02/08/2021 21:58

Thank you, prayers to you

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MrsPsmalls · 02/08/2021 21:58

I am so sorry to hear this. Obviously I don't know the circumstances but wish you every strength in pursing this in in whatever way you think does justice to your son. Tbh I think society finds it very easy to sweep these deaths under the carpet and I think prison deaths will soon be another scandal like the scandals associated with children's homes, learning disabled peoples homes and even the recent covid care homes scandals. We cannot allow the powers that be to abdicate responsibility for people in any institutional 'care'. And two years is way to long to wait.

Notashandyta · 02/08/2021 21:58

So so sorry. Words aren't enough.
Please carry on talking if it would help.

Tell us about your boy. What was his name? What did he enjoy?

Teaandakitkat · 02/08/2021 21:58

I’ve got at least another year of the inquest process, really tough on all of us

I can't believe it takes so long. That's cruel.
What are they actually doing, or are you stuck in a big backlog or a whole load of red tape? They can't be investigating every day for 3 years.

It's mad that you are waiting all this time, I'm so sorry.

RandomMess · 02/08/2021 21:59

I am so sorry for the loss of your son, two years already Sad

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Thehazelnut · 02/08/2021 22:01

I have through a charity called “inquest”. Because of that wonderful charity I now have representation through the inquest process….truly amazing organisation…

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stitchinguru · 02/08/2021 22:01

Hi @Thehazelnut
I lost my son (aged 24) to SADs on Christmas Day 2019. I am finding that alone a colossal thing to deal with.
I cannot even begin to imagine how much worse it must be for you with the uncertainty and ongoing investigation.
From one bereaved Mum to another - my deepest sympathy.

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Thehazelnut · 02/08/2021 22:02

Thank you x

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Thehazelnut · 02/08/2021 22:21

Yes I have a wonderful solicitor, from the charity” inquest” they have been marvellous….they will be with me when the first part of the inquest starts “hopefully” this year

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Thehazelnut · 02/08/2021 22:33

I would like to share his story, maybe after the inquest, I would like that opportunity then thank you xx

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Thehazelnut · 02/08/2021 22:54

His name was Sam, I called him Samshine, he was exactly that, beautiful, smiling and lit up a room with his shining light…

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