Losing My Twin

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Although I had lots of resentment towards her, for many reasons; after losing my twin a couple of months ago I'm struggling. I look around the room and think, 'I'll never see her sitting there again', or 'here', or ' but, there'. I thought I'd picked up all her abandoned cigarette butts in the garden before I lost her [when I didn't know I'd never have her at my house again], but when I found one last one I picked it up and put it with stuff I've retained from my mum.

I’m so sorry. It’s difficult when the relationship wasn’t straightforward. I had this with my late brother but he was four years older and a different order of magnitude to losing your twin I’ve no doubt.

Would you consider bereavement counselling or approaching a bereavement support group like CRUSE?

With time the pain will fade somewhat and you will gradually become accustomed to her absence except for very rare triggers.

I am so sorry for your loss xxx

I lost my twin too. It’s been two years. I still think of things that I’d like to message her because she’d think it was funny or sweet or just because I want to tell her something.
She’s left a big hole, it won’t ever be filled. I’m really sorry that you’re struggling, it will get easier but the hole won’t disappear I am afraid, I think it’s been helpful for me to accept that.
I’m sorry that your relationship was complicated too, be kind to yourself, it’s ok to feel these other feelings too xx

Thanks for the responses xx Came back from shopping today to find our gardner had been to cut the grass and placed our [cheeky] local foxes' stolen toys on the table (currently five toys). My first thought was, 'I wish I could tell my sister about that and send her a photo'. @clareth > I'm sure you're right about this; we just learn to live with it in the best way we can. So sorry to hear about you losing your twin. The thing is you can go through bereavement, but each one can hit you in many different ways. We're never really prepared. Of course, the adverse side of grieving is you had someone to love in the first place.